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A Better Boundless
by Candice Z. Watters
I was running on the treadmill a few days ago while my kids played on the floor beside me. Just weeks away from the end of summer -- and the start of kindergarten for five-year-old Harrison and preschool for three-year-old Zoe-- I started crying. Hard. Working to stay on the fast-moving belt, trying to keep my breathing steady, I kept brushing away the tears that were streaming down my already sweaty face. Harrison looked up and said, "Mommy, are you happy sad?"

"Yes, I'm happy-sad," I assured him as I considered the changes just ahead. I would have two free mornings a week for the first time in five years. I would finally have time to write, edit and read -- uninterrupted by the whine of little ones battling for their way. And I would have quiet. Which would remind me that my babies aren't babies anymore. It really does feel like just yesterday that Harrison was newborn, small enough to fit in the stroller he now uses for storing his toys.

And in many ways, if feels like yesterday that I launched another of my babies: Boundless. Some of you have likely been around long enough to remember the start of Boundless, a first for Focus on the Family. It was the first "webzine," the first online weekly and the first product specifically for college students.

Back when we launched, we described Boundless as a place where trusted mentors gathered to help you navigate the rocky terrain of a college campus, survive a hostile professor, develop the subversive courage of chastity, and dream beyond the classroom.

Nearly eight years later, it's time to take that dreaming to a whole new level. Starting this week, Boundless is officially expanding its audience beyond the campus, growing with our readership through the post-college season through the next decade of life. Charged with speaking to 18-34 year olds, our goal is to help you make the most of the single season while preparing for the one to come.

That means living intentionally -- knowing who God has called you to be and how to go about becoming that person -- through community, purity and stewardship.

Community. Friends are a vital part of being twenty-something, especially if you're single. The best of them share your life story, encourage your progress and bear your burdens. But they're not enough. You also need input from people who are older than you; mentors who've already lived through the season you're in, with lessons and wisdom to pass down. And don't forget the little ones: your younger siblings, the teens and toddlers in your church, everyone not yet where you are. Being exposed to the range of generations gives you perspective; a context for making sense of where you are in your journey. It helps to remember that what you're currently going through, both exhilarating and frustrating, is fleeting; one season out of many that will comprise your life.

Purity. It's not enough to save your body for your spouse. The purity God calls us to is complete: mind, body and soul. That requires a lot of diligence, especially in a culture that assaults you with sexualized images virtually everywhere you look. (I can barely buy groceries without struggling to keep my eyes off the magazines at the checkout aisle.) But for all that effort, it's worth it to avoid bringing a complicated sexual history into future relationships. Living purely frees you to hear God's call on your life, whether to marriage or celibate service, all the while helping you avoid the pitfalls of our over-sexualized, entertainment-focused culture.

Stewardship. Finding your purpose begins with a realistic assessment of what you're good at, what you're passionate about and who God created you to be. As you begin to answer these questions, how you spend your time, talents and resources will make the difference in fulfilling your destiny. A mix of wise money management, generous giving and service will keep you out of financial bondage as well as selfish indulgence.

And it's not just the what that's expanding. It's the how. In addition to publishing three new articles each week, we're adding an html E-newsletter (finally!) that will include links to the new articles, as always, plus mini articles exclusive to the email. This is a great time to sign up for this free service if you haven't already, and to use the "forward" feature to invite your friends and family to join.

That's just what's new this week. We're also working on a host of new features.

In the coming weeks and months, you'll see a new topical collection that will make it easier to search through the 1,100 plus articles in our archive. You'll be able to find the best we have to offer on issues that mean the most to you. Issues like: college, career, community, faith, finances, family, singles, society and sex.

We're also looking for resources: books, music and more that will encourage and equip you. Historically, we've had a few items available for purchase from the site. Now we're ramping up with a heartier lineup of stuff, the stuff we like and the stuff you recommend.

We're also proposing a bi-monthly print version of Boundless, pod casts and a weekly blog. As always, we're dependent on you -- the readers -- to give us feedback. Many of you have shared your ideas with us over the years, ideas about the design as well as requests for more community elements including message boards and RSS feeds. Thanks for that. We’re working hard to make Boundless more responsive to your needs, both in how it works and what we say. So keep the email coming.

And keep coming back to Boundless. The fun is just beginning.

Copyright © 2005 Candice Z. Watters. All rights reserved. International copyright secured. This article was published on Boundless.org on August 18, 2005.