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The pervasive plague of pornography represents one of the
greatest moral challenges faced by the Christian church in the
postmodern age. With eroticism woven into the very heart of the
culture, celebrated in its entertainment, and advertised as a
commodity, it is virtually impossible to escape the pervasive
influence of pornography in our culture and in our lives.
At the same time, the problem of human sinfulness is
fundamentally unchanged from the time of the Fall until the
present. There is no theological basis for assuming that human
beings are more lustful, more defenseless before sexual
temptation or more susceptible to the corruption of sexual
desire than was the case in any previous generation.
Two distinctions mark the present age from previous eras.
First, pornography has been so mainstreamed through
advertising, commercial images, entertainment and everyday
life, that what would have been illegal just a few decades ago is
now taken as common dress, common entertainment and
unremarkable sensuality. Second, explicit eroticism —
complete with pornographic images, narrative and symbolism
— is now celebrated as a cultural good in some sectors of
the society. Pornography, now reported to be the seventh-
largest business in America, claims its own icons and public
figures. Hugh Hefner, founder of Playboy, is considered
by many Americans to be a model of entrepreneurial success,
sexual pleasure and a liberated lifestyle. The use of Hugh Hefner
as a spokesman by a family-based hamburger chain in California
indicates something of how pornography itself has been
mainstreamed in the culture.
Growing out of those two developments is a third reality
— namely, that increased exposure to erotic stimulation
creates the need for ever-increased stimulation in order to
demand notice, arouse sexual interest and retain attention. In an
odd twist, hyper-exposure to pornography leads to a lower net
return on investment — which is to say that the more
pornography one sees the more explicit the images must be in
order to excite interest. As the postmodernist would explain, in
order to "transgress," pornographers must continue to press the
envelope.
One further qualification must be added to this picture.
Pornography is mainly, though not exclusively, a male
phenomenon. That is to say, the users and consumers of
pornography are overwhelmingly male — boys and men.
In the name of women's liberation, some pornography directed
toward a female market has emerged in recent years.
Nevertheless, this is decidedly a "niche" market in the larger
pornographic economy. The fact remains that many men pay a
great deal of money and spend a great deal of time looking
at and looking for pornographic images in
order to arouse themselves sexually.
Why is pornography such a big business? The answer to that
question lies in two fundamental realities. First, the most
fundamental answer to the question must be rooted in a biblical
understanding of human beings as sinners. We must take into
full account the fact that sin has corrupted every good thing in
creation, and the effects of sin extend to every dimension of life.
The sex drive, which should point toward covenant fidelity in
marriage and all the goods associated with that most basic
institution, has instead been corrupted to devastating effects.
Rather than directed toward fidelity, covenantal commitment,
procreation and the wonder of a one-flesh relationship, the sex
drive has been degraded into a passion that robs God of His
glory, celebrating the sensual at the expense of the spiritual,
and setting what God had intended for good on a path that leads
to destruction in the name of personal fulfillment. The most
important answer we can give to pornography's rise in
popularity is rooted in the Christian doctrine of sin. As sinners,
we corrupt what God has perfectly designed for the good of His
creatures and we have turned sex into a carnival of orgiastic
pleasures. Not only have we severed sex from marriage, but as a
society, we now look at marriage as an imposition, chastity as an
embarrassment and sexual restraint as a psychological hang-up.
The doctrine of sin explains why we have exchanged the glory of
God for Sigmund Freud's concept of polymorphous perversity.
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In addition to this, we must recognize that a capitalist free-
market economy rewards those who produce a product that is
both attractive and appetitive. The purveyors of pornography
know that they succeed by directing their product to the lowest
common denominator of humanity — a depraved sexual
mind. Without the legal restraints common in previous
generations, pornographers are now free to sell their goods
virtually without restriction. Beyond this, they base their
marketing plan on the assumption that an individual can be
seduced into the use of pornography and then will be "hooked"
into a pattern of dependence upon pornographic images and the
need for ever-more explicit sexual material as a means toward
sexual arousal.
The bottom line is that, in our sinfulness, men are drawn
toward pornography and a frighteningly large percentage of men
develop a dependence upon pornographic images for their own
sexual arousal and for their concept of the good life, sexual
fulfillment and even meaning in life. Medical research can
document the increased flow of endorphins — hormones
that create pleasure in the brain — when sexual images
are viewed. Given the law of reduced effect, greater stimulation
is needed to keep a constant flow of endorphins to the brain's
pleasure centers. Without conscious awareness of what is
happening, men are drawn into a pattern of deeper and deeper
sin, more and more explicit pornography and never-ending
rationalizing, and all this started when the eye first began its
perusal of the pornographic image and sexual arousal was its
product.
The postmodern age has brought many wonders as well as
incredible moral challenges. Often, technological achievement
and moral complexity come hand in hand. This is most explicitly
the case with the development of the Internet. For the first time
in human history, a teenager in his bedroom has access to an
innumerable array of pornographic websites, catering to every
imaginable sexual passion, perversion and pleasure. Today's
teenager, if not stranded on some desert island, is likely to know
more about sex and its complexities than his father knew when
he got married. Furthermore, what most generations have
known only in the imagination — if at all — is now
there for the viewing on websites, both commercial and free.
The Internet has brought an interstate highway of pornography
into every community, with exit ramps at every terminal or
personal computer.
Pornography represents one of the most insidious attacks
upon the sanctity of marriage and the goodness of sex within
the one-flesh relationship. The celebration of debauchery rather
than purity, the elevation of genital pleasure over all other
considerations and the corruption of sexual energy through an
inversion of the self, corrupts the idea of marriage, leads to
incalculable harm and subverts marriage and the marital
bond.
The Christian worldview must direct all consideration of
sexuality to the institution of marriage. Marriage is not merely
the arena for sexual activity, it is presented in Scripture as the
divinely-designed arena for the display of God's glory on earth
as a man and a wife come together in a one-flesh relationship
within the marriage covenant. Rightly understood and rightly
ordered, marriage is a picture of God's own covenantal
faithfulness. Marriage is to display God's glory, reveal God's
good gifts to His creatures, and protect human beings from the
inevitable disaster that follows when sexual passions are
divorced from their rightful place.
The marginalization of marriage, and the open antipathy
with which many in the culture elite approach the question of
marriage, produces a context in which Christians committed to a
marriage ethic appear hopelessly out of step with the larger
culture. Whereas marriage is seen as a privatized contract to be
made and unmade at will in the larger society, Christians must
see marriage as an inviolable covenant made before God and
man, that establishes both temporal and eternal realities.
Christians have no right to be embarrassed when it comes
to talking about sex and sexuality. An unhealthy reticence or
embarrassment in dealing with these issues is a form of
disrespect to God's creation. Whatever God made is good, and
every good thing God made has an intended purpose that
ultimately reveals His own glory. When conservative Christians
respond to sex with ambivalence or embarrassment, we slander
the goodness of God and hide God's glory which is intended to
be revealed in the right use of creation's gifts.
Therefore, our first responsibility is to point all persons
toward the right use of God's good gifts and the legitimacy of
sex in marriage as one vital aspect of God's intention in
marriage from the beginning.
Many individuals — especially young men —
hold a false expectation of what sex represents within the
marriage relationship. Since the male sex drive is largely
directed toward genital pleasure, men often assume that women
are just the same. While physical pleasure is certainly an
essential part of the female experience of sex, it is not as
focused on the solitary goal of genital fulfillment as is the case
with many men.
A biblical worldview understands that God has
demonstrated His glory in both the sameness and the
differences that mark men and women, male and female. Alike
made in the image of God, men and women are literally made
for each other. The physicality of the male and female
bodies cries out for fulfillment in the other. The sex drive calls
both men and women out of themselves and toward a
covenantal relationship which is consummated in a one-flesh
union.
By definition, sex within marriage is not merely the
accomplishment of sexual fulfillment on the part of two
individuals who happen to share the same bed. Rather, it is the
mutual self-giving that reaches pleasures both physical and
spiritual. The emotional aspect of sex cannot be divorced from
the physical dimension of the sex act. Though men are often
tempted to forget this, women possess more and less gentle
means of making that need clear.
Consider the fact that a woman has every right to expect
that her husband will earn access to the marriage bed. As the
Apostle Paul states, the husband and wife no longer own their
own bodies, but each now belongs to the other. At the same
time, Paul instructed men to love their wives even as Christ has
loved the church. Even as wives are commanded to submit to the
authority of their husbands, the husband is called to a far higher
standard of Christ-like love and devotion toward the wife.
Therefore, when I say that a husband must regularly "earn"
privileged access to the marital bed, I mean that a husband owes
his wife the confidence, affection and emotional support that
would lead her to freely give herself to her husband in the act of
sex.
God's gift of sexuality is inherently designed to pull us out
of ourselves and toward our spouse. For men, this means that
marriage calls us out of our self-focused concern for genital
pleasure and toward the totality of the sex act within the marital
relationship.
Put most bluntly, I believe that God means for a man to be
civilized, directed and stimulated toward marital faithfulness by
the fact that his wife will freely give herself to him sexually only
when he presents himself as worthy of her attention and
desire.
Perhaps specificity will help to illustrate this point. I am
confident that God's glory is seen in the fact that a married man,
faithful to his wife, who loves her genuinely, will wake up in the
morning driven by ambition and passion in order to make his
wife proud, confident and assured in her devotion to her
husband. A husband who looks forward to sex with his wife will
aim his life toward those things that will bring rightful pride to
her heart, will direct himself to her with love as the foundation
of their relationship and will present himself to her as a man in
whom she can take both pride and satisfaction.
Consider these two pictures. The first picture is of a man
who has set himself toward a commitment to sexual purity, and
is living in sexual integrity with his wife. In order to fulfill his
wife's rightful expectations and to maximize their mutual
pleasure in the marriage bed, he is careful to live, to talk, to lead
and to love in such a way that his wife finds her fulfillment in
giving herself to him in love. The sex act then becomes a
fulfillment of their entire relationship, not an isolated physical
act that is merely incidental to their love for each other. Neither
uses sex as means of manipulation, neither is inordinately
focused merely on self-centered personal pleasure and both
give themselves to each other in unapologetic and unhindered
sexual passion. In this picture, there is no shame. Before God,
this man can be confident that he is fulfilling his responsibilities
both as a male and as a man. He is directing
his sexuality, his sex drive and his physical embodiment toward
the one-flesh relationship that is the perfect paradigm of God's
intention in creation.
By contrast, consider another man. This man lives alone, or
at least in a context other than holy marriage. Directed inwardly
rather than outwardly, his sex drive has become an engine for
lust and self-gratification. Pornography is the essence of his
sexual interest and arousal. Rather than taking satisfaction in his
wife, he looks at dirty pictures in order to be rewarded with
sexual arousal that comes without responsibility, expectation or
demand. Arrayed before him are a seemingly endless variety of
naked women, sexual images of explicit carnality and a
cornucopia of perversions intended to seduce the imagination
and corrupt the soul.
This man need not be concerned with his physical
appearance, his personal hygiene or his moral character in the
eyes of a wife. Without this structure and accountability, he is
free to take his sexual pleasure without regard for his unshaved
face, his slothfulness, his halitosis, his body odor and his
physical appearance. He faces no requirement of personal
respect, and no eyes gaze upon him in order to evaluate the
seriousness and worthiness of his sexual desire. Instead, his
eyes roam across the images of unblinking faces, leering at
women who make no demands upon him, who never speak back
and who can never say no. There is no exchange of respect, no
exchange of love and nothing more than the using of women as
sex objects for his individual and inverted sexual pleasure.
These two pictures of male sexuality are deliberately
intended to drive home the point that every man must decide
who he will be, whom he will serve and how he will love. In the
end, a man's decision about pornography is a decision about his
soul, a decision about his marriage, a decision about his wife
and a decision about God.
Pornography is a slander against the goodness of God's
creation and a corruption of this good gift God has given his
creatures out of his own self-giving love. To abuse this gift is to
weaken, not only the institution of marriage, but the fabric of
civilization itself. To choose lust over love is to debase humanity
and to worship the false god Priapus in the most brazen form of
modern idolatry.
The deliberate use of pornography is nothing less than the
willful invitation of illicit lovers and objectified sex objects and
forbidden knowledge into a man's heart, mind and soul. The
damage to the man's heart is beyond measure, and the cost in
human misery will only be made clear on the Day of Judgment.
From the moment a boy reaches puberty until the day he is
lowered into the ground, every man will struggle with lust. Let
us follow the biblical example and scriptural command that we
make a covenant with our eyes lest we sin. In this society, we are
called to be nothing less than a corps of the mutually
accountable amidst a world that lives as if it will never be called
to account.
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