While no amount of preparation would have made me the perfect bride, it could have helped me enter marriage as a more thoughtful, easier-to-live-with spouse.
I'm a decade out of college and still unmarried. Here are the lessons I've learned.
Is there any way for you, a single female, to live out this godly womanhood thing?
Keeping hope alive as a single can feel like a struggle. But what if the struggle is the whole point?
If "no" is never a genuine choice in my mind, I can never say a whole-hearted "yes."
What if my single life is more fruitful than I know?
To know if you're depressed, you first have to know what depression is.
How do we know if we have the spiritual gift of singleness?
Be refreshingly honest, pour out your heart to a kind God, build a spiritual family, and live a full-throttle life.
Advice for single men whom God has given the desire for marriage but who have not yet found a wife.
Navigating a series of "almost" relationships can be wearisome. But this inconvenient process may also be the very means God is using to mature you.
If we want a happy marriage in the future, we need to take selfishness seriously now.
For all of us, life is about timing — God's, not ours.
The pain of being left out as a single young adult is real, but there are practical things you can do to make it better.
Yes, marriage is one way God matures us. But it is not the only way.
In a day when more women can bring home their personal bacon and fry it up in a pan, where does that leave their need for men?
As single women cultivate godly attitudes and avoid damaging lies, they allow the Lord to pour out the things He has for them.
What do women do that make good, timely marriages less likely?
On the journey to finding a mate, it's best to travel light.
What two funerals taught me about singleness and fruitfulness
Going through a breakup can be one of the most difficult things you'll ever experience. Lauren offers some advice and wisdom about the breakup blues.
Emotional pain won’t just go away if you ignore it; you've got to deal with it.
Trusting God with a hope denied
Keeping an unwavering faith in the midst of a difficult reality
How to wait on the Lord and trust His perfect plan for your life, while taking steps to prepare yourself to be a good wife and mother
Thirty years old and still praying for a spouse? Here's encouragement as you continue on the journey.
You asked "What does it mean to be 'called to singleness' for your life? How do you know if you're called to it?" Theo answers.
Even if you don't have a significant other, there's still time to make this Valentine's Day the best yet.
Every choice makes the next one easier or harder, depending on what we've chosen to do.
For most people, singleness is a temporary season. I wish I had more actively embraced its gifts before it ended.
Letting go of expectations can be painful but freeing.
We're called to pray about everything. So what should prayer for a husband look like?
As a single adult, you have some great opportunities to experiment in the kitchen and enjoy practicing hospitality.
Yes, we want to get married eventually — but only after we've experienced the freedom of our 20s and had a chance to get know ourselves better.
It's not so much where you live, but how, that matters.
Clutter hinders action and opportunity.
The holidays can be a lonely time. For me, they were very lonely.
Haven't met your future mate? Getting anxious? Relax; you've got things to do while you wait. Here are eight suggestions for flourishing in The Meantime.
The years are not lost. They've only been let go.
When does a boy become a man? (Hint: It’s not your age.) Find out if you have what it takes to be a godly man.
In my campaign against intentional delay have I diminished godly waiting?
If God could waste a perfectly good Messiah on us, why couldn't I waste something on Him?
In community with God's people, singles can discern their calling and (where appropriate) pursue marriage honorably.
It had become a box of bitterness.
I must admit that my ship of singleness feels a little less even-keel than it used to.
A candid talk about singleness from a couple who spent most of their lives as singles.
Watching friend after friend find true love can be discouraging, but it can also be an opportunity to shine.
As time goes on, it grows more clear to me that while my waiting years are a loss, they are not a waste.
If holidays with your family leave you feeling depressed, it may be time for some new resolutions.
How I serve God in the world has more to do with my heart than my marital status.
I know the One who should captivate my heart. Why then, am I so easily distracted?
Being alone. For some, it's painful. For some, glorious. And for some, it's both.
Your friends' relationships are moving along nicely and you're still painfully single. Even in the midst of such unfulfilled desire it is possible to be thankful.
Three books are mined for truth about singleness and marriage.
It's time to grow up.
Though they might seem compassionate, some singles ministries are actually more of a hindrance.
We can see our longings as a bittersweet gift if we can look up from the tangled web of our own desires and see that they point past us, past the other person, to something more infinite.
Maybe it's not the mortgage that's the problem, but the attitude that sometimes goes with it.
Of course, for many women, it is a wise financial move to buy rather than rent. But if marriage is your goal, it isn't your only investment option.
Is extended adolescence a natural and beneficial sign of social evolution? Or is it a symptom of something more ominous festering in our hearts?
Those few who are gifted to forgo marriage for the sake of the kingdom of heaven are to be commended. But maybe we should stop calling singleness itself a gift.
One gamer has the courage to tell the story of addiction, and how he's broken free.
They say 30 is the new 20. So what do we have to show for all that extra time spent growing up?
Asking God to help you find a mate is a good thing. Here are a few tips for how to pray boldly for marriage.
Readers agree — celibacy sounds good in theory. Now for a little practical advice.
Why is it some people's path to the altar is just a few footsteps long? Mine felt like a marathon.
For most people, singleness is a temporary season. This author wishes she had more actively embraced its gifts before it ended.
Some think it takes guys 30 years to become adults. The question is, do you meet these low expectations or exceed them?
Dreaming up your future while you snack on ramen noodles.
Some of the richest, most successful people in the world are lonely. Maybe you are, too. You don’t have to be.
Dana's lesson: Don't throw yourself overboard trying to find "the right one." Just keep paddling.
The pain of breaking up kind of makes you long for something better.
Ever feel like you'll never find Mr./Ms. Right? Hinlicky's advice might help.
Administrators wring their hands over it. Students shrug their shoulders over it. Maybe it's time to look at the deeper consequences.
Men are declining says Prof. Tiger. The question remians: Why?
When romance goes sour, the healing can take a while. Even for a guy.
What happened to the time?
It seems like only yesterday I was in junior high, tight-rolling my jeans and nursing a crush on my classmate Tiffany. Somewhere I blinked, and almost two scores later, I remain unmarried.
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