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The Most Difficult Thing in Life

One of my friends told me she learned a lot about herself by being married; in such close quarters, it’s hard to hide anything about yourself, and your constant companion makes you think about your personality and behavior more.

I never really thought about the value of self-awareness until after she brought this up. I became more aware after I made a couple close friendships that involved sacrifice and vulnerability. As an unmarried 27-year-old, I haven’t had a spouse to highlight my personality traits.

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With Rejection Comes Great Responsibility

Many of my favorite fictional heroes don’t have to deal with rejection in their romantic lives. Ever. Take Katniss Everdeen; she’s got not one, but two guys fighting for her affections. Captain America has a lady interested in both eras. Commander Shepherd gets her pick of available characters to romance.

Why do they get it so easy?

Writers want their characters to be desirable and awesome, so really, it doesn’t make sense for someone to say no to a man who can stop a helicopter with one arm.

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Contentment in Singleness—Is It a Feeling?

I can’t be the only one who’s wished for a switch to turn off my emotions. I’ve complained to my friends that I just want to stop feeling things, and they pat me on the back and tell me that if I did, I wouldn’t be the artistic, compassionate person I am… blah, blah, blah.

Don’t get me wrong, I love them for saying that. But it is hard to accept emotions are a good thing when you’re feeling like Eeyore with his tail missing on a rainy day.

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When the Pain Won’t Stop

I woke up the other morning with anxiety. Not because I was in pain, but because I was dreading pain to come. With a chronic stomach disorder, I experience pain a lot, and I’m tired of it. It’s exhausting. How is it fair that I don’t feel well so much of the time that I live in fear of an attack coming? How is it fair that my physical appearance is affected—from baggy eyes due to lack of sleep to blotchy skin from hormonal imbalances?

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5 Ways Romantic Love Blinds Us

The phrase “love is blind” probably originated from Shakespeare’s play The Merchant of Venice. In the play, Jessica says, “But love is blind and lovers cannot see / The pretty follies that themselves commit.”

I don’t think it’s a surprise to anyone that feelings, especially romantic ones, can turn our thoughts into a jumbled mess. No one can escape the experience of being blinded by love. You’ve felt it yourself. You’ve seen it happen to your friends and family.

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Is “Follow Your Dreams” the Best Advice?

“Follow your dreams.”

These words seem to chase Millennials around, and we embrace them by attempting to do what we’re passionate about. It’s a very different attitude compared to my parents’ generation, a group of people who worked wherever they could because they had to, prioritizing family and self-sacrifice over their dreams.

Our parents see opportunities for us they never had, and there’s nothing wrong with giving kids a bit more freedom of choice. During my childhood, my dad worked as a jail guard.

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Can Single Men and Women Be Close Friends?

Can men and women who are single be friends without ruining the relationship?

This feels like an age-old question in the church, and there are lots of opinions out there. Many believe such friendships are ultimately doomed and therefore should be avoided altogether. “It’ll always lead to something else for one or both parties,” they argue. The relationship will become romantic, or it’ll fade away when one of them starts dating someone else, so why bother?