Prior to ever meeting Jordan, I had never dated. At the time, I felt somewhat hopeless thinking about my future husband. A few guys had shown interest in me, but I never had a peace about dating them. I went on my first date the summer after I graduated high school. The date was a disaster. I felt like I was being interviewed for a wife position, and also, I really felt uneasy about dating in general at the time. I truly believe the Lord was not giving His permission for me to date at the time, and thankfully the guy I went out with understood.
That August I moved into college. While there, I discovered Boundless. I am so thankful for the ministry of Boundless and for their heart in reaching out to college students and single adults. I read so many articles and grew in my walk greatly. Related to dating, Boundless helped me in the waiting process and focusing my attention on something else. My mom was also a great help to me. One time I asked her, “What’s wrong with me that no one wants to pursue a relationship with me? I’ve waited so long, and people who aren’t even interested in getting married have someone. Why don’t I have someone? I want more than anything to get married.” I realize my immaturity in this statement now, but I’m glad I asked the question. My mom told me something I will never forget: “Emilie, have you ever considered that it might be God’s will for them to be in a relationship?” I had never thought about God’s will in a relationship before, but it put everything into perspective for me. Hopefully those people were/are following the Lord’s will, and I determined to follow Him as well.
During this time, Jordan had joined the United States Marine Corps. He was stationed in Okinawa. While there, he says he was at a loss as to how he was ever going to find a wife while in Oki. He told the Lord that he was leaving it up to Him to bring him a wife because he couldn’t foresee how he could ever find one on his own. Little did either of us know that the Lord would do just that.
Fall 2012, I was in a class about the World Wars, and someone said something about Marines in Okinawa that didn’t sound quite right. An acquaintance of mine was sitting beside me and mentioned she knew someone stationed in Okinawa and decided to ask him if she and I could Skype him to ask him a few questions about Japanese perceptions of Americans. So March 28, 2013, sitting in a Chick-fil-a, I met Jordan for the first time. Within five minutes of meeting him, he friended me on Facebook. Providentially, Jordan was in a shooting competition stateside that allowed us to be in the same time zone for a month. Within that month, he gave me his number and pursued me through frequent Skype calls and phone calls. I met his family and really got to know them. Upon returning to Okinawa, Jordan told me he wanted to pursue a relationship with me once he returned to the states in July, but until then he wanted to remain good friends. I agreed.
That summer we spent copious amounts of time on Facebook and Skype, getting to know each other. We grew in care and love for each other each day. He quickly became my best friend. Jordan came home in August and called me the day after he got home, asking if he could come visit me. I quickly said YES! The next day he drove five hours to meet me in person for the first time. That was one of the best days of my life. To finally be able to meet the man who had captured my heart through pursuing my heart. That week he told me he loved me, and we began officially dating. Nov. 6, 2013, at the Marine Corps Ball, Jordan proposed, and I said, “YES!” We will get married in June 2014. We are so excited to see where the Lord will take us together. It is only by the Lord’s goodness to us that we are now together.
A verse that sticks out in my mind when thinking about our relationship is Ephesians 3:20-21. “Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us, to Him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus….” The Lord has given me exceedingly abundantly above all that I asked for or thought of about my future husband in Jordan. He has given me immeasurably more than my desires. I am greatly blessed.
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