I’m typing this in my home office, snow beating against my window and collecting on the ground at an inch per hour. Looking out my window reminds me of the scene in Doctor Zhivago where his home is under mounds of snow. My UPS occasionally notifies me that power has been interrupted, making typing this post a bit of a challenge.
Why has the marriage rate dropped 40 percent over the last four decades? Why are people spending less and less of their lives married?
In a book called The Singlehood Phenomenon, Dr. Tom and Dr. Beverly Rodgers identify what they call the “top ten brutally honest reasons singles aren’t getting married.” We haven’t formally reviewed this book, so I can’t speak to all its particulars, but the authors seem to have captured well the top reasons we hear from you and see in the reports that come across our desk.
A recent AP article reports that 65 percent of 18-29 year-old Americans who own cell phones text message on a regular basis. They are g2g and lol and 2g2bt. And in case you’re an IM neophyte like me those mean “good to go,” “laughing out loud” and “too good to be true.”
I don’t know why, but I haven’t been able to get into all the new gadgets (I can’t even find my iPod). Maybe it’s because I’m mw2sk (“married with two small kids”) or dht (“don’t have time”).
While the religious faithful the world over were worshiping the Living God this past Sunday, the San Francisco Chronicle ran an article by Dinesh D’Souza about the source of such faith.
D’Souza highlighted the puzzlement over religion among some of our age’s most influencial thinkers. Because faith doesn’t make sense to them, biologists Richard Dawkins and E.O. Wilson, philosopher Daniel Dennett and author Sam Harris look to their patron saint, Charles Darwin, to explain why religion continues to thrive.
The Today Show’s segment on what men really want in a wife was partly right. Starting with the question “Do men really want wives like June Cleaver?” they said,
… men imagined the perfect mate as a passive, docile catering nurturer and women envisioned a giving, sacrificing protector. But these are fantasies! And while it may be fun to imagine — or even play out — these roles at times, they are but one of many fantasies men and women may have about their ideal partners.
If you love your sin like I love mine, you will be well served to read Jonathon Dodson’s Mere Accountability featured on the home page of Boundless. In it, Dodson challenges us to mortify the sin in our lives by practicing God-honoring accountability — accountability characterized by confessing our temptations to others, constantly contending with sin through the help of the Holy Spirit, and faith in God’s promises and power to overcome sin.
This is good counsel, which I am certain will prove helpful for many if practiced.
A few days ago, I got a phone call from my sister. Ecstatic, she said, “Suzanne, I had the most unexpected talk with Dave yesterday!” Sarah has been witnessing to her friend Dave for more than a year. An intelligent pre-med student with strong ethics, Dave is also agnostic. And yet, his friendship with my sister and her friends, committed evangelicals, has blossomed.
Over the summer, Sarah lent Dave Blue Like Jazz by Donald Miller. This book was quite the buzz for several years, and it seems nearly every twenty-something evangelical has read it.
After seeing Suzanne’s post that mentioned the song “Single,” I wonder how Boundless readers feel about the song Twentysomething by Jamie Cullum.
This jazzy lounge tune from a couple of years ago has a lot of the retrospection that has come to characterize a decade of life in which opportunities seem simultaneously intriguing and empty. Here are some of the more telling lyrics:
Maybe I’ll go traveling for a year,
finding myself or start a career.
When I was single, it was hard not to think about politics. I pretty much lived it while working on Capitol Hill. And then, after two years working for a Congressman, I went to graduate school to get my masters degree in public policy. I anticipated each election with the conviction that our culture — and my job — would rise or fall based on the results.
I may have overemphasized the importance of elections back then, but once I got married and started having kids, I have to admit, I went too far the other way.
Is there a perfect age to marry? Does waiting until your late twenties or thirties give you greater maturity and a stronger financial foundation? Does marrying at a younger age give you a better shot at having energy for the parenting years and avoiding sexual sin?
The Washington Times ran an article called Knot Now, Americans Say that holds up some of the benefits of marrying young to those who may have a bias towards waiting until a later age.