A few years ago my friend Kim got really angry at God because someone close to her died. She had even stopped praying. But she still kept up the good Christian-girl facade. One day she went to a new church service with some people she didn’t know very well. Though the service was remarkably boring, Kim was furiously journaling. She’d never prayed for something tangible before, but that day she felt led to pray, God, I just really need to know you love me.
In October 2012, I wrote my first blog post for Boundless. I’d been a long-time lurker, but when the opportunity arose to write about my own struggles with singleness and learning how to be an adult, I jumped in with both feet. I had recently turned 30 and was mourning the loss of a potential relationship. I was feeling very, very single.
So I began to write about faith, dating and the things God was teaching me, sometimes through incredible blessings and other times through deep pain.
After reading Lindsay’s latest blog “36 and Single … What If I’m the Problem?” I came away with a solid conclusion: Actually, I probably am the problem. My response to my singleness has started to shift lately. I am, as the saying goes, taking the bull by the horns.
If you’re single, older than 30 and you don’t want to be single anymore, well, I’d call that a problem. Or, in the very least, it’s a challenge.
Question to Discuss: Who defines what “reality” is? If you claim something is real or reality, and I disagree, how do we come to a conclusion?
Roundtable: Taking a Stand
Remember the whole, “Would you believe me if I said I was a 6’5” Asian woman” set-up? Yeah, we do too. The responses were startling. And somewhat sobering. Truth is pretty squishy on today’s college campuses but what about in the minds of Christian young adults?
Greetings and Salutations!
We are the 2016 summer interns here at Boundless, and we couldn’t be more excited to see how God works in us and through us during these next two months. Our lives have been profoundly impacted by the resources provided by Boundless, so it has been an incredible experience to meet the faithful, wise, and hilarious team that makes it all happen. Without further ado, here’s a bit about each of us!
My name is Juliana Keck (aka Jules or J-Dizzle), and it’s an honor to be able to introduce myself to the Boundless community.
I was supposed to marry a tall, dark-haired, Starbucks-loving seminarian who was preparing to be a youth pastor for inner-city students. The kind of guy a good, Jesus-loving girl was supposed to marry, right? (Remember those lists you wrote in youth group about the five traits you want in a spouse and how you shouldn’t settle for anything less than all five?) The funny thing is, one month ago, I married my best friend and the godliest man I know — and Jeremy meets none of the requirements of my list.
Our story of immeasurably more. “Now to Him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to His power that is at work within us, to Him be glory…for ever and ever!” (Ephesians 3:20).
Every story has a cast of characters, so let me introduce you to ours: In the leading role you have Dale who is a 38-year-old engineer from southern Mississippi. In an equally important, supporting role you have Crystal who is a 32-year-old accountant from southern Alabama.
This story was mostly written from Clara’s perspective with Brian’s inserts in bold.
Brian and I attended a small Christian college in Missouri. In 2006, I was a freshman and Brian was a junior. I was excited to experience all that college had to offer, and dating wasn’t on my radar. One of the first weeks of my freshman year, I was working at my on-campus job, and Brian walked in. We sat and chatted with the “mom on campus,” then went our separate ways without thinking twice.
“The episode normalized breaking up”
“Thank you for the Breaking Up Well episode of the podcast. It was the first step in God speaking to me about breaking off a bad relationship I was in. (I later found out after listening to the episode that he was using drugs.) The episode normalized breaking up as so many of my Christian friends married their first boyfriend. So thank you so much for the support of this episode.
Aaron and I were both hesitant about online dating. We were both from small towns in the Midwest, and the idea of meeting your spouse online was a little embarrassing, if not scary. I know I’d also kicked against the idea previously, because it seemed like it wasn’t waiting on God to bring your spouse. My mom even told me that when I broached the subject with her. But, at 27 years old, having never been in a relationship before, and going to a church that had one single male in it, I finally decided to take a friend’s continuous advice to try online dating.