Without taking my eyes off the screen, I turned my face to the side and took another sip of coffee while refreshing Boundless.org for the 10th time. It was every Thursday morning of my undergrad sophomore year in 2004. I was waiting for that week’s three new articles to be uploaded to the site and was hoping for more wisdom from Boundless co-founder Steve Watters; his wife, Candice; and their team to help me test and approve God’s will for my life.
Most promises don’t come to pass overnight. Days and years go by; we choose to keep trusting the One that made the promise or to stop hoping and settle for something else. Plenty of days I thought God was withholding from me or that He forgot or that maybe I totally misunderstood what I thought He told me about having a family one day. I’ll be the first to tell you: I hate God’s timing — He’s so slow.
How the Lord prepared us
I recently turned 30 years old and will soon be married for the first time. As I reflect back on my journey as a single man, I can’t say it was a smooth road to holy matrimony. There was plenty of anguish in my mind, longings in my soul, and unmet desires in my heart. If God had the ability to fatigue (which He doesn’t), He was getting tired of hearing His own words from me.
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On March 27, 2014, a guy named Tyler called me. All I knew about him was that he was five years younger than me, was in seminary, and worked at the same school my best friend worked at (she was our matchmaker). I was skeptical about yet another blind set-up, but I agreed to give him my number.
When my friend first told me about Tyler, I almost said no to being set up.
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I’m Leah. I’m a 25-year-old American woman, and my husband is Yuya, a 27-year-old Japanese man. How our international relationship, engagement and marriage came about has been a story of our gradual submission to God.
I’m from a large homeschooling Christian family in the Seattle area. The first school I attended was college where I went to study Japanese. I love languages, especially those that don’t use the Roman alphabet — call me crazy!
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A little over five years ago, I found myself having coffee with a husband and wife pastor team who had just moved to Berkeley, Calif., to plant a church. I had first heard about them a few months earlier at a national missions conference, and after hearing about them repeatedly by pastors at my home church, I decided it was finally time to meet them and learn about their vision for a new church in one of the most creative, postmodern and liberal cities in the nation.
I just listened to May’s Fifty Shades of What? episode, and it was very good. I personally never read the series simply that I was convicted that I shouldn’t and that it wouldn’t support my marriage. (I’m 30 and married for eight years.) It was very refreshing to hear a real take on this, why we are compelled to read it and how we should address our friends who read this. I especially liked the list of five needs that are being fulfilled by these books.
Blessed by Boundless
Thank you so much for your service, support and encouragement to Christian young adults. I have been reading and listening to Boundless since my freshman year in college and have been so blessed by your ministry. The Boundless team has answered so many of my questions and provided godly counsel as I have been navigating Christian living, community and relationships.
Thank you all for the great work that you do! May God continue to bless you and your ministry and guide you in all your endeavors.
Encouraging My Boyfriend
I’m thrilled Candice answered my question, and her advice was spot on. (See “Am I wrong to want more romance in my relationship?“)
My situation has actually improved since I submitted this question. I think my boyfriend just isn’t the most expressive person, even with his mom and sister, and he certainly loves and respects them both and treats them well. As I’ve given him encouragement when he’s done things that make me feel special and different from just a friend, I’ve seen more of those words/actions.
For the past four years, we’ve shared Engagement Stories from couples who have benefited from Boundless on their journey to the altar. (My favorite is from Lindsey and Brian.) The stories are a fun way for the Boundless community to celebrate an engagement; learn from one another’s experiences; and see what articles, podcasts or principles were most helpful in that couple’s relationship.
But we receive many more stories than these from our readers and listeners, telling us how God has used Boundless in their unique situations.