Prior to ever meeting Jordan, I had never dated. At the time, I felt somewhat hopeless thinking about my future husband. A few guys had shown interest in me, but I never had a peace about dating them. I went on my first date the summer after I graduated high school. The date was a disaster. I felt like I was being interviewed for a wife position, and also, I really felt uneasy about dating in general at the time.
When I was younger, I had this feeling that I would find the man that I would marry in college. I was not boy crazy; I really loved God. Yet this feeling never changed.
However, throughout college I kept getting discouraged. Boundless was amazing and encouraging in some lonely times. I kept looking to Jesus and was able to do some amazing things while being single. Yet I still could not shake the feeling and question of, “When am I going to meet this man that God has in store?”
Fast forward to New Year’s Eve 2012.
A dear friend of mine introduced me to Boundless during my first year of college. I was hooked immediately. I read A Girl’s Guide to Marrying Well and Get Married by Candice Watters, which quickly became my favorite book.
I was armed with knowledge of what godly relationships look like, and I longed for marriage, but I couldn’t seem to attract a man’s attention. On the one occasion I did, he said marriage wasn’t in his near future.
Oh hey, guys! Long time no see! (Long time no write?)
Anyway — guess what? I’m engaged!
My fiancé (weird and awesome!) Andrew and I met Easter of 2012. He lives in Alberta, Canada, but he was in Denver visiting a friend. We ended up at the same Easter potluck, and he and I started chatting. We hit it off immediately — he was so funny, and we ended up hanging out a couple of times while he was in town.
After hearing a lot about ChristianCafe.com on the Boundless podcast, I spent a few months trying the online dating scene. After many awkward, hilarious and embarrassing dates, I was about to close my profile as I got ready to move from the east coast to the west coast. That was when I received a message from Carl. Carl seemed nice, and we had a lot in common. But I quickly let him know that I was planning on moving and that I was sure he didn’t want to continue talking.
Roundtable: Love Can Move Mountains
Nathan wanted to get married, but the thought of a seemingly endless string of set-ups and dating dead ends had him discouraged. Then, when his buddy died in a climbing accident, Nathan was left to grieve. Slowly, God began to unfold a story before Nathan’s eyes that he never expected. Thus begins a tale of love, loss and God’s provision that you have to hear to believe.
I am Zambian (not sure if many Boundless readers know or have even hear of it). I was introduced to Boundless.org in 2011 by a friend, and I found it a great tool to answer the questions I had about relationships.
I became a Christian in 2006. I got saved after repeatedly hearing the Gospel preached and having people evangelize to me one on one. After coming to the Lord in salvation, I spent and invested time in reading the Scriptures and good Christian literature, so when I came in contact with Boundless, I was glad to find a platform that addressed relationships and marriage from an entirely biblical perspective and a place where people presented their struggles and thoughts plainly and sought help.
One day in January 2008, I was in between classes, resting in my dorm room when I read a blog by Kelly Needham called A Challenge of Surrender. Never before had I felt so led to surrender a list to God specifically telling Him my needs and wants for my husband to be. But I wrote the list and saved it on my computer just to have it go unnoticed for a few years.
On the brink of graduation I found myself still single and not sure what type of career I would be going into after graduation.
I grew up reading all the age-appropriate Focus on the Family magazines, and once I went to college, I was unsure what was out there for me next. But by then, Boundless had started and had articles on finding a mate and online dating.
Before setting up my online dating profiles, I reviewed Boundless’ articles for help in how I should approach the online dating scene and continued to use it for help with how to weed through all the options and to get the right perspective.
It was a cold February night. A young man sat alone in a Starbucks, nervously sipping his tea, waiting for his date to arrive.
At quarter after six — just 15 minutes late — a young woman entered Starbucks. He looked up and immediately fell for her smile.
Then, he with his tea and she with her coffee, they began to talk in person for the first time. They had met online, but after just two weeks, he wanted to be intentional so he asked for a date; online is a great way to meet in this modern day, but it’s just the beginning.