Warren Barfield was the guest musician during the “Love Worth Fighting For” marriage event I attended a few weekends ago. He opened the event with a song that stuck with me the whole day because it spoke so well into my relationship with my fiancé.
It was called “The Right Time.” It was the song’s background that resonated with me, which is actually a personal story about how Barfield came to marry his wife. The song describes this scene where he is sitting with his mom in the kitchen, telling her about the new woman in his life. At the time, he was traveling around as a musician and was living out of his car. He didn’t have much to offer other than himself and a ring. But he knew he wanted to marry this woman.
His mom gave him some sound advice and told him he couldn’t pass up a good thing. The chorus elaborates:
“If you’re waiting for the right time, the right time will fly right by you. Always planning, never moving. Always praying, never doing. It ain’t living if you’re just spending your life waiting for the right time.”
I’m sure this describes most of us. We’re skilled at making excuses. We don’t even have to use getting married as an example. It could be going back to school, starting or moving for a new job, having a baby, dieting, spending more time in prayer or God’s Word, or even getting more involved in church.
It’s a popular saying in my house that something will happen when the rush is over. But when is the rush really over? The rush, as we call it, is really just life. We can’t do everything we say we’re going to do in this life if we’re waiting for life itself to be put on pause.
When Josh and I first started dating, he was laid off because his company was forced to close down. He started building the nutrition business he was involved in on the side. I’d been horribly sick with a stomach bug and some other health issues that I’m still fighting to resolve.
When we decided to get married, our situations looked exactly the same. He didn’t have a full-time job. My health wasn’t in the best place. I have car payments and not much in savings. We hadn’t lived in the same town.
Some people advised us to wait. But if we waited, we’d be waiting for years. We’d miss out on the blessings of marriage because something happened to not line up perfectly like others thought it should.
We listened to the input and advice of those around us, but we put our trust in God that He was leading us to marry. We felt peace about May. We’re firm believers in that once you know, you know. When you feel led to something, do it. We put it in God’s hands and watched it flourish.
We’re three months away from our wedding, and Josh has a full-time job in my area of California. He moved and got settled into an apartment in my town. My health is slowly getting better. And we’re making do.
Financial struggles happen when you’re single and when you’re married. Career mishaps happen when you’re single and when you’re married. Health issues arise when you’re single and when you’re married. Unless they’re the result of a character flaw that raises red flags, these aren’t reasons to delay marriage.
Another favorite line in Barfield’s song says “The best things don’t always hang around for those who wait.” What kind of good opportunities have you missed because it just “wasn’t the right time?” If you did take good opportunities at a seemingly bad time, how did that turn out?