I found an article this week about how millennials are waiting longer to marry, based on a recent study. It says that the decline in marriage in young adults is due to the decline in the importance of marriage. The author points out that marriage used to be the starting point for young adults, but it’s not that way anymore.
I’m glad I married young. My husband and I get to start our adult lives together. We get to establish our financial base together. We adopted our first pet (an adorable ragdoll kitten we named Gracie), and eventually, we’ll get to look for our first house together.
I’m also glad we didn’t wait until every little detail was sorted out. We knew we wanted to marry, and after lots of prayer, we both felt it was where God was leading us. We didn’t want to date for years before taking the leap. The longer you date, the more you open yourself up to temptation emotionally and physically.
I know not everyone is given the opportunity to marry young, but marriage is still worth the pursuit at any age. The importance of marriage shouldn’t get lost in financial worries, the ease of cohabitation and pressure to live life single and free before making a commitment and settling down.
It’s great to work toward higher education, a promotion or a steady financial base, but it’s much better to do it alongside someone you love. The article also points out that married couples are often better off financially.
I’ll always remember the first day of the marriage-and-family class I took in college. The professor asked us to give him some good reasons for delaying marriage, and he shot down all of them, including financial reasons. The only exceptions would be a harmful addiction that needs to be worked through before marriage, such as an addiction to alcohol or porn.
Marriage is worth pursuing for three reasons (at least):
1. It’s a union established by God. If God ordained marriage, it must be good. In Genesis after the creation of Adam, God clearly says it’s not good for man to be alone (Genesis 2:18). He tries to find a suitable helper and companion for Adam, but nothing fits until He creates Eve.
They’re united in marriage, and they begin their new life together. God sees that union as good. Adam isn’t the exception in this story of marriage. He is the model. There is nothing shameful about getting married, settling down and starting a family — even if none of your friends are. God designed us for that very thing!
2. It’s sanctifying. I’ve always loved that the relationship between a husband and wife mirrors the relationship between Christ and the church. In marriage, you learn to love unconditionally. You also learn your own faults and discover your own areas of sin you didn’t know were there. In dating, you put your best foot forward; in marriage, you’re yourself for better or worse. As iron sharpens iron, your spouse will encourage you to grow in godliness.
It’s freeing to conquer those areas in your life and draw closer to God through those experiences. While singleness is also sanctifying and allows you to grow, there is nothing like living with a spouse who isn’t afraid to tell it like it is. There is a safety for honesty in marriage that is different than friendships or dating. When your spouse calls you out on something, you can’t just say you’ll work on it and part ways. They are there to keep you accountable. You learn to share with and serve another person in a more intimate way.
3. Everything is better together than alone. I mentioned earlier how I’m excited about having more experiences with my husband than without him. If we struggle financially, I’d rather struggle with him than struggle alone. In marriage, you have a life partner who shares your ups and downs.
You don’t have to own a house or have the perfect job before marriage. You don’t have to have it all together. If you’re presented with the opportunity to marry and that’s where you feel God is leading, take it. If you don’t own a house, you’ll get to share that experience someday with your spouse. If you want to earn another degree, go for it. Your spouse will love sharing in what you’re learning.
What are some other reasons marriage is worth pursuing?