The Boundless Answers column today by Candice Watters answers a question about family size. The reader asks:
My older sister is pregnant with her fourth baby and excited about growing her family. She and I were talking last night about family size, and it got me thinking about how many children are too many and if that is even possible — to have “too many” children. … God is in control of all things, especially which eternal souls are born into the world and when and to whom. Just like He can keep some from ever conceiving, can’t He determine when a family has the right amount of children and close the womb? If so, why don’t we trust Him to do that?
This is a question about how we as Christians view children and God. Candice points out that Scripture says children are wealth and a reward, and then she adds:
It may not be sin to say no to more (I’m not certain on this), but at a minimum, it seems we should reconsider the “wisdom” of refusing such gifts from the hand of God.
I’m forever grateful my parents didn’t refuse such gifts. Their names are Rachel, Naomi, Grace, Caleb, Noah and Hosanna — my six brothers and sisters.
As a result of this large family, yes, I wore some hand-me-downs, shared a bedroom, learned how to drive in a full-size van and had to eat quickly if I wanted any chance at seconds. But I also had the privilege of watching and learning from my three older sisters, teaching the youngest (who is five years younger than me) things such as how to swim and write her name, performing music with all six of them at various events, and creating some of the best Christmas cards ever! (I’m on the far left.)
As I’ve grown up, the blessings continue. These people not only share my history, but also my joys and sorrows. Their phone numbers are first in my speed dial.
As singles we may not be in a position to decide when we want children and how many, but having a biblical view of children and family is important regardless. It helps us sincerely congratulate our friends who are expecting and extend a little more grace to the parents whose children are acting up. It can also motivate us to be advocates of God’s design for family within our circles, and invest our time in the children and families we know.
What are some other reasons you think it’s important for singles to have a biblical view of children and family?