Engagement Stories: Denise & Andrew

Oh hey, guys! Long time no see! (Long time no write?)

Anyway — guess what? I’m engaged!

My fiancé (weird and awesome!) Andrew and I met Easter of 2012. He lives in Alberta, Canada, but he was in Denver visiting a friend. We ended up at the same Easter potluck, and he and I started chatting. We hit it off immediately — he was so funny, and we ended up hanging out a couple of times while he was in town. We stayed in touch throughout the spring and summer, and in late July 2012, he came to visit me. We became “official” and then dated long-distance. Last May I went to Canada for the summer so that Andrew and I could spend more time together. At the end of July, I was offered a job in Alberta! I returned to Colorado in August to wait for the work visa from the Canadian government because I cannot officially move until I have the correct paperwork. I am still waiting for the work visa, which means Andrew and I are still apart. Yikes.

Luckily, we were able to spend this past Christmas and New Year’s together. I stayed a couple of extra weeks in Alberta after the New Year, and then I came back to Colorado in mid-January to wait out the visa. I assumed I wouldn’t see him again until I officially move — hopefully in a few weeks!

Because I was back in Colorado, I was eager to catch up with friends. My friend Diana and I decided to get pedicures and go to the mall one Saturday. When we got to the mall, Diana suggested that we go to the store Anthropologie, because it is my favorite. Usually I just stare longingly at the pretty clothes because it’s a pricey store, but every once in awhile, I find something great in the sale items. We browsed for awhile, and I found a few things I wanted to try on. I headed to the back of the store, and one of the Anthropologie employees led me to a fitting room. I opened the fitting room door, and I nearly fainted. This is what I saw:

Andrew was not in Canada — he was in the Anthropologie fitting room! He said, “I have something else I’d like you to try on instead,” and he got down on one knee, showed me the ring and proposed! It was so amazing. I was completely shocked and blown away by his thoughtfulness, sweet words and incredible planning! (More fun details and pictures over on my blog!)

When I first moved to Colorado in 2005, I was 22. I started a job working as an assistant editor for TrueU, a new website Focus on the Family was creating. I had no idea where life would lead or how God would be at work. Because of my job writing articles for TrueU and Boundless, I have spent a lot of time reflecting on singleness and dating. I wrote lots of articles in my early 20s ranging from my experience dating non-Christians to my thoughts on interracial dating.

The advice Boundless offers and the input from readers here are so useful and helpful. But throughout the past year-and-a-half of dating Andrew (I blogged about the long-distance experience!), I’ve also fully realized that each of our stories is a bit different. There is no exact formula for how to date, how to relate or how to succeed. No one article is going to be your magic answer.

But what has been clear to me since I met Andrew is that God has been intimately involved in this process. It is crazy when we look back on our lives — choices, experiences, joys, difficulties, other relationships, jobs — so many things led us to that Easter dinner in that exact spot. So many things have prepared us for one another and have shaped our unique perspectives and abilities so that we are a really good team.

When I was young, I thought I would get married right when I graduated from college. But then I wouldn’t have met Andrew. God knew. It sounds trite and maybe kind of annoying when you’re still waiting, but it’s true.

I am so grateful for Andrew. He is so funny and smart and such a hard worker. He challenges me and reminds me of truth and makes me more fun. I am excited for us to create our life together — we will love Jesus together, serve together, laugh together and be awesome together.

Mostly, I am grateful for what God has done in our lives. He has been with us every step of the way — encouraging and affirming and helping. He has done such great things for us. We are filled with joy!

Are you engaged or newly married? We’d love to hear your story and how Boundless was helpful to you along the way! Email us at editor@boundless.org. For more stories like this one, go to Engagement Stories.


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