Some Sex is Never Safe
It’s no secret we at Boundless think premarital sex is unbiblical, sinful, bad for the soul and bad for relationships. Now there’s a tell-all book that is so shocking in its clarity and conclusions that the author, a campus physician at an unnamed university, had to write it anonymously.
Unprotected: A Campus Psychiatrist Reveals How Political Correctness in Her Profession Endangers Every Student is so “vivid and urgent” is her message (as one reviewer put it), it would be hard to believe were it not in print. Especially given the fact that this is not a Christian book per se, nor does the author claim a religious motivation for writing it. She’s simply speaking from her experience in the campus clinic where she works; the clinic where she witnesses the relational shrapnel of a generation of women acting on the advice they’ve been given.
“Safe sex” practices notwithstanding, “the author meets patients who cannot sleep, who mutilate themselves, who exhibit every symptom of psychic distress. Often they don’t even know why they feel the way the do. As these girls see it, they are acting like sensible, responsible adults,” writes reviewer Danielle Crittenden for the Wall Street Journal’s Bookshelf column.
Ironically, the author’s patients fail to link all their suffering with their sexual habits. The connection is not lost on the author, however. She points to surveys that have found “sexually active teenage girls were more than three times as likely to be depressed, and nearly three times as likely to have had a suicide attempts, than girls who were not sexually active.”
Her conclusion — based on nothing more than the realities of the young women in her care — premarital sex is bad for your health.
I’d like to think we believers don’t need a reason for sexual purity other than that God told us sex is reserved for marriage. Sadly, statistical evidence shows unmarried Christians are as sexually active as their non-believing counterparts.
Maybe these stories will compel where conviction has failed.
In the right context sex is great; a divine gift. That’s what Song of Solomon is all about. But out of context it’s all wrong. And this book shows whether you acknowledge that context or not, the consequences — and there are many — are unavoidable.
About the Author
Candice Watters is a wife, mom, and Bible teacher. She is the author of Get Married: What Women Can Do to Help it Happen, co-founder with her husband, Steve, of Boundless.org and co-author of Start Your Family: Inspiration for Having Babies. They have four children and blog at FamilyMaking.com.