Is he commitment shy?

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Is he commitment shy?

Apr 03, 2006 |John Thomas
Question

What does it mean when you are dating a guy and everything seems to click (chemistry, you have fun together, you like the same things, have the same opinions, laugh at the same jokes, and you get along great, etc.), but he tells you he doesn't want a "steady girlfriend" right now? Is he just being commitment shy?

Answer

Maybe. If that's the case, and you want to move him off "dead-center." It sounds like you're ready to take your relationship to the next level and give it some meaning beyond "having fun." Good for you. Don't fall into the mode of enabling his passivity by accepting the status of being a "non-steady dat-ee." Right now, he has absolutely no incentive to be "steady" with you. He's having fun, drawing emotional energy from you, without any commitment required of him. He's got it all. Don't let him do that.

If he truly doesn't want a steady girlfriend, but you want to be his steady girlfriend, then let him know, and if he won't commit, let him go.

Blessings,
JOHN THOMAS

Copyright 2006 John Thomas. All rights reserved.

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