What does it mean to be attracted to someone? And what role should attraction play in my pursuit of marriage?
Learn why counter-intuitive, counter-cultural friendships are possible and why they're so glorious.
Friendship is a huge part of life when you're single. Let's see what Scripture has to say about it.
A woman's prerogative to say "no" to a man
Sometimes being a friend, or just being a Christian, means a lot of time-consuming, burden-bearing, gloriously busy, and wildly inefficient work.
While conflict can be an opportunity to grow, we too often let our passions get the best of us.
What does a young man miss out on if he stays "alone" even though his body and heart pull him toward marriage?
I've always wanted to be a husband, but a walk through my family history reveals why being one is a miracle.
Sex madness is not first a problem of situation, location or relationship. Our problems are deeply spiritual.
How to feed the kind of relationships where people feel secure enough to be vulnerable
I was scared to walk down the aisle, but it wasn't because I was worried about stumbling over my dress. I was worried about being a wife.
Is there a point where a "passion for purity" becomes too much?
My iPhone had grown on me — literally. It was attached to my hand, clinging to me like a localized infection I didn't want to cure.
Fighting in a godly way creates space for the next conflict to be successful.
There is a path forward for those who have been sexually active, and it takes us through the very heart of the Gospel.
When we recognize God's love for us, and our hopeless situation apart from His love, we can begin to truly love another.
There was a time during my unmarried years when I was trying so hard to get dating right that I just ended up getting it weird.
The path to purity requires finding the real among the counterfeits. Here's help for being set free from pornography.
But you should still read it anyway.
Men aren't able to commit? "Marriage research rock star" Scott Stanley challenges that assertion.
Thinking of moving in with your significant other, just to see if marriage is a good idea? Turns out living together isn't all it's cracked up to be.
The book of Ruth has much to say about getting to marriage in difficult circumstances, under the watchful, purposeful sovereignty of God.
Discover why self-absorbed insecurity is the enemy of healthy relationships.
From afar, planning a wedding seems so enticing. But the truth is most brides are crestfallen when they realize how hard it really is.
It can be tempting for women to forgo the biblical warnings of unequal yoking and believe their story is different. But it rarely is.
From ages 12 to 20, I was addicted to reading erotic stories on the Internet. Here's how God lifted me from the pit and renewed my self-worth.
Things can get really messy when you have relationship issues with both God and the opposite sex.
Are you hoping for mind-blowing sex on your wedding night? Remember, a satisfying honeymoon takes careful preparation and realistic expectations.
Dating couples need a game plan: a set of ideas, attitudes and actions that will help them glorify God and safeguard their relationship from premarital sex.
Learning to communicate is a lot like learning to dance. Start slow, learn your paces, respond to your partner's movements, pay attention, trust, and enjoy.
Sex isn't simple, so as you anticipate your wedding, spend time preparing for the honeymoon, too. Here are some ideas to get your sex life off to a great start.
Femininity intentionally cultivated and displayed brings God glory. Learn how to value and cherish your sexuality as much as the One who created it does.
A man's sexuality is a lot like a spring. It seems to be always on and often has no real direction. Here's how to channel it toward life-giving pursuits.
"Virginity's well and good," you say, "but not everyone has waited." What can be said to readers who have already crossed the line? You asked; we're answering.
Too many men and women lack a vision, anchored in good theology, of the body, sex, marriage and chastity. Rediscover that compelling vision here.
Indirect communication fuels the frustration many singles have with the opposite sex.
While Jesus never dated, He did have friends. And His friendships reveal the nature of His relationships in such a way that we can imagine how He would date.
Lust destroys men's vision. Godly living, though, brings healing.
Learn five ways to help protect a woman's heart and make your intentions clear.
The practical problem with letting "attraction" lead the way in finding a spouse is not profound: It doesn't work.
Is your view of marital love influenced more by pornography and secular culture than the Bible? Discover what a Christ-centered sexual ethic entails.
You don't have to be a captive of your culture's definitions of beauty. Here are four steps to recalibrate your sense of beauty.
Graglia and Krasnow thought they had it all. Till they started listening to their instincts.
Living in such a confused culture, could it be we are going about the "search for love" with a completely wrong agenda?
Maybe losing "the spark" isn't the end of the world after all.
You can be a victor through Christ.
In the final article of this series, we'll look at worry and pride — two reasons many people are often opposed to interracial relationships.
Looking for a completely countercultural path to marriage? Here's how to apply God's Word to dating, finding a spouse and getting married.
Three men talk about how they pursued their wives.
Dating is hard enough as it is. Would a relationship with someone outside of your race make things even more difficult?
Five questions to answer before you get married
Discover why finding balance between connectedness and differentiation is one of the most important elements of a successful relationship.
If you feel like you're never going to get married, take heart! Learn a few things from Martin Luther's singleness and then marriage.
Learn how to protect yourself while dating online.
The way we raised boys in the faith 20 years ago eliminated many of the men Christian women would love to date today.
Does he have marriage in mind, or is he just a buddy? There are some practical things you can do to clear up ambiguity in your relationship.
If you’re one of those guys who is passively encouraging a single woman to waste her time on you when you’re not romantically interested, then it’s time for one of the most important breakups of your life.
Giving online dating a chance? Make your profile the best it can be.
Nine humorous tips for meeting someone at church
Fearing the male sex drive has damaged a lot of lives.
Developing healthy relationships with the opposite sex is beneficial whether you're dating or waiting.
Magnets only work when they're facing polar opposites — maybe they're trying to teach us something.
How our sex drive can bring us closer to God or further away.
What does it all mean for future marriages?
The Last Kiss portrays an anemic, yet all-too-common, view of marriage that needs to go.
Does online dating go against God's guidance?
Rediscover the language of the body.
If red flags are signs that a relationship should end, what are the signs that it should steam ahead?
A totaled car drives a long-distance couple to think soberly about their sputtering relationship.
Love in its fullness never just happens; love that lasts is won.
Five tips to embrace real-life relationships more than the carbon-copy versions we see online
Desperation in dating can lead us to understand our greater source of desperation and in turn redeem our whole approach to dating.
Does it matter how you interact with the opposite sex at work?
Nine tips to keep in mind before you move, when you arrive and the days that follow.
Feminists who get offended when men open doors for them confuse chivalry with chauvinism.
To the single guys out there who are trying to find the ideal woman, do the world a favor and give up.
Companions don’t always make good friends. David noticed the difference in Proverbs — and in his life.
How to love the people with whom we are friends or with whom we might start a friendship
Is all our texting, Facebooking and emailing bringing us closer to people or creating barriers to authentic communication?
How women can end the gender war
Seeing God's image in the men He made
We men can't help what we find beautiful in a woman. Or can we? Learn about the purpose and promise of true beauty.
“We’re just friends.” You’ve likely said it -- about a guy or girl who was distinct from Friday night “dates.” But maybe we’ve got it backwards.
Rediscover why marriage is love’s greatest and most courageous defender.
A random act of kindness, though it may deliver a quick high, has little potential for furthering relationships or building the kingdom. Deliberate acts of kindness, on the other hand....
Have you ever asked, "Where are all the good guys?" They want you to know they are all around you. Here's what they're looking for in a future spouse.
Marriage rescues us from the paradox of choice and introduces us to the paradox of gift: Give yourself, and you find yourself.
Overcoming sexual guilt and avoiding infidelity in your new marriage
"Would we be good together?"
What is "mentoring" and how can you get a mentoring relationship started?
The one thing no one ever tells you about sex.
How to be considered faithful and righteous in cyberspace
When tragedy strikes our friends, we usually try to cheer them up or comfort them. We could do better, though, just to grieve right along with them.
Marriages between two cultures present challenges, but Christ and the Cross can transcend cultural differences.
All you need is love, love, love. Right?
It doesn't take long to realize that if you're just passing through, people will only give you passing interest.
Christian love isn't about sweet feelings. But what about romantic love?
In many ways, the church is an extroverts' world. So for introverts to be effective in ministry and get more out of church, it takes some creative thinking.
In this final excerpt in our three-part series, Dr. Leon Kass calls for a restoration of cultural gravity about sex and marriage.
Dr. Leon Kass, respected author, professor and bio-ethicist, puts words to our worst fears in this second excerpt from a three-part series. Though it's discouraging news, being able to expose the problem is the first step toward finding a solution.
In this first of three excerpts from his penetrating essay of the same name, Dr. Leon Kass lays bare the current state of courtship and marriage in American society.
Where in the Bible does it specifically say premarital sex is wrong?
One essential task for the church is to rebuild and maintain a marriage culture — even when marriage itself no longer makes sense to so many around us.
Sometimes a DTR doesn't go quite as planned.
Sex is about union. And a foretaste of something even better.
Are you more likely to get married based on what generation you're in? It's possible.
How much does Noland really want a happy ending?
It's good to make plans, especially when it comes to relationships.
How you respond when a guy asks you out affects him more than you might think. So do it with a godly humility that will both attract him and encourage him.
Our goal as Christians is not to avoid getting into trouble. It's also not to try to get into trouble. Our goal is to get into the right kind of trouble.
Though young adults are statistically more likely to repeat their parents' mistakes, they are not doomed to do so.
What can you do to improve your chances of a good marriage?
How does a man decide whether or not to marry the woman he’s dating? Here are some tips for Christian guys to know if she’s "the one."
Just say no to smut.
Armed with a biblical mandate and fueled by Christian passion, young men can be the vanguard for recovery of the biblical concept of marriage.
We didn't gain a thing by waiting to get married. But we did risk some things and simply lost out on others.
Our culture gives us lots of reasons not to marry young. But are they good ones?
Afraid of getting married because you've seen so many marriages fail? You're not alone.
Making the transition when one of you gets married can be tricky, but it's totally worth it.
What can I do while I wait?
Sometimes God seems distant in the quest for marriage, but His involvement may be greater than you think.
Pornography, that is.
Andrew had expected to burst into tears as he poured out his story to Pablo in the Fairview Correctional visiting room. Instead, he found himself shouting.
Every time he prayed, the assurances seemed to get stronger that she was "the one."
The more I explore the topic of humor, the more slippery the subject becomes.
I pray that one day my friends will say, "Thank you for being such a Rat."
Here I was, extending forgiveness with one hand while holding bitterness tightly behind my back with the other.
You might think that a decade would be enough time to leave hurt far in the distant past. And yet sometimes it came back, as fresh and as raw as ever it was.
The mountain was filled with moguls. But He would not leave me to brave it alone.
Joint vs. separate checking. Why don't secular and Christian financial advisors agree?
When God is your matchmaker, there's no need to mind the gap.
We spend just enough time "at church" to be religious, but nowhere near enough time to be family.
When it comes to porn, every man must decide who he will be, whom he will serve and how he will love.
Churches are striving to keep young people coming, but their methods may be keeping young people away from what's best about church.
You won't marry the perfect man. But through premarital discernment and your holy influence, he will be headed that direction.
Of course, I can submit ... as long as my husband is right.
More than being about the love of someone of the same sex, homosexuality often seems to be the sexualized love of oneself, projected on to another.
And three other things I did "wrong" to find a mate.
There are some misunderstandings out there about mentoring. Let's clear them up.
In spite of iPhones and Facebook, we're more disconnected than ever. It's time to make some offline friends.
For many men, getting married is viewed as the end of a process. Nope. It's only the beginning.
Matchmakers are so 20th century. It's time for something new.
In this excerpt from With One Voice, author Alex Chediak explores common distortions of masculinity and femininity.
I didn't know what the year would hold, but whatever it was it would be extraordinary.
The hope of marriage is an antidote to promiscuity.
Living together before marriage seems like a great way to test your relationship. But what you're really doing is limiting your options.
She tells her Uncle Theo that he's "just a friend." That's not how others see it, though.
What do you need to know if you're planning to use (or already a member of) a web-based matchmaking service?
Believing that "the one" is out there, waiting to "complete you," inevitably leads to discontentment and maybe even divorce.
In a consumer culture, it's easy to lose sight of what the church is for.
The tendency in relationships is to push the physical boundaries. But there's a reason God asks for ultimate purity.
Though women aren't the target audience for this book, we can listen in and hopefully, while eavesdropping, glean some valuable help for marrying well.
We usually don't think of our sexual design as being an appropriate factor in getting married. But it is.
Hmm, I wonder, what exactly is happening to my brain?
Friendship can be an enemy, a seduction of the mind lying beyond the reach of investigation. Or not.
Want to look bad and make her feel like an afterthought? Then simply do what's expected on Valentine's Day.
When I see His work in His people, I see God.
Planning to get married someday? Pay attention to these 10 must-have qualities.
Gangstas, out-of-wedlock pregnancy, sugar packets — ah, the things that come up in mentoring relationships.
My favorite love stories are true ones.
If you want to know and be known, try practicing forgiveness, integrity, humility and community.
Don't let fear of divorce make you put off marriage.
If you feel called to marry, your best bet is likely a marriage-friendly church.
Close male-female friendships can be fun and engaging, but are women putting their emotions at risk?
Satan is set against us. He wants to devour us by provoking our flesh, by tempting us to sin. But we can fight back.
A book about chastity is pointing the way in our sex-saturated culture.
What's the big deal about pre-marital sex? Professor Theophilus demonstrates with a piece of duct tape in this fictional story.
Everybody settles when they decide to get married. Or nobody settles. Or is it both-and?
We're all enthralled by nudity but none of us actually wants to be naked.
For some, finding love that lasts a lifetime is a smooth trek. But for most of us, the path is brutally bumpy.
Guys, it's time to man-up and take the lead in the romance department. God created you to be a pursuer.
The difficult truth is that some of us have created our own wearisome chains. The good news is that there's a key to unlock them.
Sometimes, a boy just isn't good enough.
Knowing when to go with what's in front of you makes all the difference. Here's what to look for in a future spouse.
Anxious that you may be shooting yourself in the foot by marrying your girlfriend or boyfriend? Perhaps all you need is a little faith.
Beginning married life together can be thrilling, but also traumatic. With a good understanding of how you'll work together as a team, it'll be more of the former and less of the latter.
Before you pop the question, you might want to ask yourself these five questions.
I'd found the woman who I'll spend the rest of my life with. We connected on just about every level, except one.
A movie, a broken relationship and a pig reveal important principles about friendship.
Leaving the gay lifestyle is not easy. But Christians who have struggled with same-sex attraction are not without hope.
You know how great it is to customize every feature on your computer, how cool it is to personalize every option? Yeah, church isn't like that at all.
Where we most often sin in our desire for marriage is not in worshiping marriage itself, but in doubting God's ability to bring it about.
Our hearts can help guide us. But if we only listen to our hearts, we may be heading down the wrong path.
How can both a man and a woman be equally invested in a relationship if one is taking all the risk?
Scripture calls me the weaker partner. What's my response?
We don't have to spend our time skipping along the surface of life, missing out on the richness of engaging deeply with those around us.
Make a decision within 12 months and avoid the pitfalls of lengthy dating relationships.
A search for security and acceptance takes one woman through isolation, same-sex "marriage" ... and redemption.
How do we know when marrying someone is God's will?
Evangelical singles are in fact more likely to engage in sexual relationships than non-evangelicals, and at an earlier age. So what?
An advice columnist's message about sexuality misses the mark.
Not sure what you've got cooking in your relationship? Bring down the heat.
Insights into how to cultivate and appreciate friendships.
Congratulations! You're engaged! Now what?
If "don't settle" is your life motto, you may be selling yourself short.
You've started dating, but aren't ready to get engaged. What might your relationship look like during this "in between" time?
When is it all right to date someone who isn't a Christian?
Navigating the aftermath of her refusal isn't always easy. But ending well has its benefits.
So you've decided you want to start dating. Now what?
More than a Victorian-era hang-up, modesty is a part of human nature that protects true love, empowers women and preserves culture.
Homosexuals are not an abomination. The sin that has them in its grips is, though.
Despite the real risks that life in community might pose, healthy communities will ultimately give more than they take away.
Are you financially ready to tie the knot? I wasn't. But I learned that it's about more than just being ready.
Without meaningful friendships, we're more vulnerable than we think.
What should friendships between single men and women look like?
You may be shocked at what goes on behind the doors of campus health care centers.
Struggling to understand modern dating conventions? Maybe it's because those before us have given us more than one dating system to draw from.
Confused by the dating scene? It might help to see where it came from.
So you think you're ready to date? Scott has some suggestions on how to get started.
Weary of the concept of the DTR? Maybe it's time for a new perspective.
Don't let fear keep you from talking to her.
If all sexual activity outside of marriage is a sin, is it also a sin to kiss outside of marriage?
An obscure verse in Deuteronomy offers a principle that, if applied, helps establish beneficial and spouse-honoring patterns for marriage.
A ministry to help young women marry well? For these two mentors, the answer is yes.
In this second excerpt of the interview we conducted with Scott Croft and Michael Lawrence, we explore celibacy and the normalcy of marriage.
This is the first of two excerpts of an interview we conducted with Scott Croft and Michael Lawrence, addressing sexuality in dating relationships.
It's not enough to know the numbers are in your favor. The real question is, where are the marriageable men and how do you find them?
The church today is filled with diversity, which often breeds conflict. The Trinity may provide us the key to resolution.
Need serious help overcoming sin? Nothing works as well as brotherly, God-honoring accountability.
For most men, a godly wife will bring blessings that nothing else can.
Some people believe the whole idea of seeking parental approval before getting engaged is archaic. Not this guy.
Professor Theophilus references the very nature of God to help us better understand how men and women are, at their core, quite different from each other.
Are there really 11 million more single young women than single young men? In a word, no.
"Differences between the sexes start with anatomy," Professor Theophilus posited, "but do they end there?"
Interracial relationships have their challenges. But what might surprise people is that these shared challenges and differences can be transformative gifts.
Pssst! Guys — what a woman wants may not be what you think. Here are seven things you can do to turn her head.
Our marriages are more than simply an expression of mutual affection. They affect the people around us, and are in turn affected by those around us.
So you're interested in "edgy" guys? Given a choice between a rusty pocket knife and a diamond-edged sword, which do you take?
A new book by Debbie Maken reminds singles that there is absolutely nothing wrong with your desire to pursue marriage.
Perhaps surprisingly, sharp-eyed, sharp-tongued Dowd has a few things to say about men and women that are worth our attention.
Feel like you're doing things that are leading you away from the altar? The solution to finding a husband may come down to one word: intentionality.
Can those scholars be right who say that viewing porn can actually improve relationships? Ryan and Rich, and their families, would say "no."
Nazi-era theologian Dietrich Bonhoeffer inspires us to love, to the point of discomfort and even death.
Courtship and dating — is one more biblical than the other? Learn more about the motive, mindset and methods of each.
Single men must know now that what they do prior to marriage is not inconsequential to what happens in marriage. They will reap what they sow.
Longtime married couples are rare. Happily longtime married couples like Jake and Myrtle are rarer yet.
The two of you are going to your (or his) family's home for the upcoming holiday. How can you make the most of your time with the family?
Looking for your soul mate? Looking for someone to complete you? If so, you might be looking for the wrong thing.
After a death occurs, there are no perfect words. Perhaps the most loving response is a willingness to linger with our bereaved friend beside their loss.
It's so much more than entertainment. A night at the theater may be the key to making progress in your relationship.
So much of the email we received in response to Danielle Crittenden's book excerpt was negative that we decided to answer it here.
Sometimes it’s harder to deal with sins in our loved ones' lives than with sin in our own.
Whether we know it or not, we have a season of life when we're more apt to find a mate. Some things just won't wait.
Could it be that Zack's most important relationship problem isn't with his guilt-tripping friends but with his girlfriend, Julie?
Getting married in a church is about more than lovely stained glass and wood pews. It's about more than Christian vows. Listen in as Theo talks with two former, almost-engaged students.
For some singles, the pressure to marry threatens to overwhelm what they really desire.
Standing up in a friend's wedding should be about a lot more than wearing a tacky dress and bustling her train. Her marriage may depend on it.
It's not what the movies, magazines and romance novels want you to believe; it's a whole lot better.
What we believe about marriage between a man and a woman has a lot to do with why so many people don't think it's a big deal to redefine it.
I found out first hand that not all dating advice is created equal.
One man's dread of all things retail said a lot more about his character than he liked to admit.
Your wedding day is fast approaching and the invitations have all been sent. Is it too late to admit the nagging feeling that you've made a bad match?
Some people learn to boldly take initiative from everyday occurances. Others learn it on a skateboard at the top of a dry waterslide.
Trying to understand the New York Times Best Seller "He's Just Not That Into You."
Pop culture's ideas about relationships are hard to escape, and counter to the very thing we so hope to find.
Sometimes it's easier to point the finger than take responsibility. It sure feels better; at least for a little while.
Why anyone who's serious about friendship will do what it takes to put down jealousy.
When Laura visits her parents' church she feels uncomfortable. Shouldn't she find a place more like her student fellowship group?
Prof Theo (with a big hand from his wife) straightens out Jordan on sending mixed signals, and on what women really want.
There may be more happening in a “group date” than you want to admit.
Are cultural expectations frustrating our best relationships?
Prof Theo talks about homosexuality, marriage and the law.
Huge strides toward divine redemption.
Small steps to big mistakes.
Everybody's doing it, but that doesn’t mean it's easy.
Differences? What differences?
On the other side of the “pulling a Ruth” story, Steve Watters talks about his path to the altar.
How do you deal with a tragedy? Here’s some advice from people who’ve been there.
She never doubted that abstinence was right. But she still wondered if something was wrong with her. She doesn't any more.
Sometimes you can't see suicide coming. Sometimes you can -- and sometimes you can stop it.
Sharyn says if you haven't had sex, you've got nothing to be shy about. Just the opposite.
A review of Life Together by Dietrich Bonhoeffer
College is a great time to learn lessons that aren't on the syllabus.
A new way of looking at those super-spiritual types in our lives.
It’s gone “mainstream,” but that doesn’t mean you have to act like it’s OK. Marshall shows a Christian way to take a stand.
Why the delay? Even Christian guys give lots of reasons — like what one calls "waiting for Pamela Anderson to become a Christian."
For Christians, the best dating means going against the grain of the culture.
No one can hurt you like a friend can. But Christina learned how to forgive; she took a lesson from the Master.
Should you date someone you know you wouldn't marry? What if you don't want to get married at all? Theo has some words to consider.
Ever pursue romance against the odds just because that seems, well, romantic? Take Sarah's advice: Don't.
What do you do when Christians around you act just like the rest of the world? Stay the course.
Are you dating or "just friends"? Maybe the other person changed the rules. Then again, maybe you just haven't been paying attention.
Divorce is so common that people talk about "starter marriages." It doesn't have to be that way.
In a world of quick fixes and convenience, patience is an old fashioned idea. Why wait?
It's one thing to justify your "relationship" to your friends, it's quite another when Theophilus starts calling you on the carpet.
If you ever feel like your new friendships are less than ideal, you're not alone. But it's not all bad, either.
Theophilus says it's not as difficult to stop as you might think.
For years I had just one face, the same in public and private. But not any more. Now I'm wearing makeup.
Review of Love and Economics: Why the Laissez-Faire Family Doesn’t Work by Jennifer Roback Morse
Why is it so easy to end up dating the wrong kind of guy? You say you attract losers? Read on. You may be confusing love with sympathy.
Men and women are different. There's no getting around that fact. But when we try to avoid it, and try we do, the outcome is downright comical.
Believe it or not, we may be on the verge of a moral comeback, says Tom Wolfe in his book, Hooking Up.