Four lessons that transformed my understanding of dating, marriage and love
For the sake of this article, we'll define an age difference as five years or more.
If men are to pursue, what's left for you to do?
Five qualities to strive for as you pursue a godly wife
A few tips to get the most from others' wisdom about dating and marriage
Let's look at five different romantic levels on which relationships can operate.
Tired of Christian dating? Start looking at relationships differently.
There is no perfect path that leads to marriage. It takes persistence, prayer and courage.
If you wonder why nobody seems to be the right fit, maybe it's time to ask what you expect in a spouse and how realistically you're assessing yourself.
Six things that matter to men when romantically pursuing a woman
Think online dating doesn't work? Try these seven steps.
Three quick ways to see if your styles of giving are compatible for the long haul
What does it mean to be attracted to someone? And what role should attraction play in my pursuit of marriage?
There was a time during my unmarried years when I was trying so hard to get dating right that I just ended up getting it weird.
But you should still read it anyway.
Thinking of moving in with your significant other, just to see if marriage is a good idea? Turns out living together isn't all it's cracked up to be.
It can be tempting for women to forgo the biblical warnings of unequal yoking and believe their story is different. But it rarely is.
Things can get really messy when you have relationship issues with both God and the opposite sex.
Learn five ways to help protect a woman's heart and make your intentions clear.
The practical problem with letting "attraction" lead the way in finding a spouse is not profound: It doesn't work.
You don't have to be a captive of your culture's definitions of beauty. Here are four steps to recalibrate your sense of beauty.
Living in such a confused culture, could it be we are going about the "search for love" with a completely wrong agenda?
In the final article of this series, we'll look at worry and pride — two reasons many people are often opposed to interracial relationships.
Looking for a completely countercultural path to marriage? Here's how to apply God's Word to dating, finding a spouse and getting married.
Three men talk about how they pursued their wives.
Dating is hard enough as it is. Would a relationship with someone outside of your race make things even more difficult?
In a culture where broken marriages are the norm, greater weight needs to be placed on making sure that the stage is set for a successful relationship.
Learn how to protect yourself while dating online.
Does he have marriage in mind, or is he just a buddy? There are some practical things you can do to clear up ambiguity in your relationship.
Giving online dating a chance? Make your profile the best it can be.
Nine humorous tips for meeting someone at church
Does online dating go against God's guidance?
If red flags are signs that a relationship should end, what are the signs that it should steam ahead?
A totaled car drives a long-distance couple to think soberly about their sputtering relationship.
Desperation in dating can lead us to understand our greater source of desperation and in turn redeem our whole approach to dating.
To the single guys out there who are trying to find the ideal woman, do the world a favor and give up.
We men can't help what we find beautiful in a woman. Or can we? Learn about the purpose and promise of true beauty.
Have you ever asked, "Where are all the good guys?" They want you to know they are all around you. Here's what they're looking for in a future spouse.
How to be considered faithful and righteous in cyberspace
All you need is love, love, love. Right?
Christian love isn't about sweet feelings. But what about romantic love?
In this final excerpt in our three-part series, Dr. Leon Kass calls for a restoration of cultural gravity about sex and marriage.
Dr. Leon Kass, respected author, professor and bio-ethicist, puts words to our worst fears in this second excerpt from a three-part series. Though it's discouraging news, being able to expose the problem is the first step toward finding a solution.
In this first of three excerpts from his penetrating essay of the same name, Dr. Leon Kass lays bare the current state of courtship and marriage in American society.
Sometimes a DTR doesn't go quite as planned.
It's good to make plans, especially when it comes to relationships.
How you respond when a guy asks you out affects him more than you might think.
How does a man decide whether or not to marry the woman he’s dating? Here are some tips for Christian guys to know if she’s "the one."
What can I do while I wait?
Sometimes God seems distant in the quest for marriage, but His involvement may be greater than you think.
Andrew had expected to burst into tears as he poured out his story to Pablo in the Fairview Correctional visiting room. Instead, he found himself shouting.
Every time he prayed, the assurances seemed to get stronger that she was "the one."
Here I was, extending forgiveness with one hand while holding bitterness tightly behind my back with the other.
You might think that a decade would be enough time to leave hurt far in the distant past. And yet sometimes it came back, as fresh and as raw as ever it was.
The mountain was filled with moguls. But He would not leave me to brave it alone.
When God is your matchmaker, there's no need to mind the gap.
And three other things I did "wrong" to find a mate.
Matchmakers are so 20th century. It's time for something new.
In this excerpt from With One Voice, author Alex Chediak explores common distortions of masculinity and femininity.
Living together before marriage seems like a great way to test your relationship. But what you're really doing is limiting your options.
She tells her Uncle Theo that he's "just a friend." That's not how others see it, though.
What do you need to know if you're planning to use (or already a member of) a web-based matchmaking service?
Want to look bad and make her feel like an afterthought? Then simply do what's expected on Valentine's Day.
Close male-female friendships can be fun and engaging, but are women putting their emotions at risk?
If it's a Christian man's responsibility to protect ... what's mine?
For some, finding love that lasts a lifetime is a smooth trek. But for most of us, the path is brutally bumpy.
Guys, it's time to man-up and take the lead in the romance department. God created you to be a pursuer.
Anxious that you may be shooting yourself in the foot by marrying your girlfriend or boyfriend? Perhaps all you need is a little faith.
Before you pop the question, you might want to ask yourself these five questions.
I'd found the woman who I'll spend the rest of my life with. We connected on just about every level, except one.
Our hearts can help guide us. But if we only listen to our hearts, we may be heading down the wrong path.
How can both a man and a woman be equally invested in a relationship if one is taking all the risk?
Make a decision within 12 months and avoid the pitfalls of lengthy dating relationships.
Not sure what you've got cooking in your relationship? Bring down the heat.
If "don't settle" is your life motto, you may be selling yourself short.
Congratulations! You're engaged! Now what?
You've started dating, but aren't ready to get engaged. What might your relationship look like during this "in between" time?
When is it all right to date someone who isn't a Christian?
Navigating the aftermath of her refusal isn't always easy. But ending well has its benefits.
So you've decided you want to start dating. Now what?
Are you financially ready to tie the knot? I wasn't. But I learned that it's about more than just being ready.
What should friendships between single men and women look like?
Struggling to understand modern dating conventions? Maybe it's because those before us have given us more than one dating system to draw from.
Confused by the dating scene? It might help to see where it came from.
So you think you're ready to date? Scott has some suggestions on how to get started.
Weary of the concept of the DTR? Maybe it's time for a new perspective.
Don't let fear keep you from talking to her.
If all sexual activity outside of marriage is a sin, is it also a sin to kiss outside of marriage?
A ministry to help young women marry well? For these two mentors, the answer is yes.
It's not enough to know the numbers are in your favor. The real question is, where are the marriageable men and how do you find them?
Some people believe the whole idea of seeking parental approval before getting engaged is archaic. Not this guy.
Are there really 11 million more single young women than single young men? In a word, no.
Interracial relationships have their challenges. But what might surprise people is that these shared challenges and differences can be transformative gifts.
Pssst! Guys — what a woman wants may not be what you think. Here are seven things you can do to turn her head.
So you're interested in "edgy" guys? Given a choice between a rusty pocket knife and a diamond-edged sword, which do you take?
Feel like you're doing things that are leading you away from the altar? The solution to finding a husband may come down to one word: intentionality.
Courtship and dating — is one more biblical than the other? Learn more about the motive, mindset and methods of each.
The two of you are going to your (or his) family's home for the upcoming holiday. How can you make the most of your time with the family?
It's so much more than entertainment. A night at the theater may be the key to making progress in your relationship.
Could it be that Zack's most important relationship problem isn't with his guilt-tripping friends but with his girlfriend, Julie?
Trying to understand the New York Times Best Seller "He's Just Not That Into You."
Prof Theo (with a big hand from his wife) straightens out Jordan on sending mixed signals, and on what women really want.
There may be more happening in a “group date” than you want to admit.
Are cultural expectations frustrating our best relationships?
Differences? What differences?
On the other side of the “pulling a Ruth” story, Steve Watters talks about his path to the altar.
For Christians, the best dating means going against the grain of the culture.
Should you date someone you know you wouldn't marry? What if you don't want to get married at all? Theo has some words to consider.
Ever pursue romance against the odds just because that seems, well, romantic? Take Sarah's advice: Don't.
Are you dating or "just friends"? Maybe the other person changed the rules. Then again, maybe you just haven't been paying attention.
It's one thing to justify your "relationship" to your friends, it's quite another when Theophilus starts calling you on the carpet.
For years I had just one face, the same in public and private. But not any more. Now I'm wearing makeup.
Why is it so easy to end up dating the wrong kind of guy? You say you attract losers? Read on. You may be confusing love with sympathy.
Why do gals take Valentine's Day so seriously? It can make a guy sick. Literally.
The delicate courtship dance between men and women always been fraught with ignorance, uncertainty, and razor-sharp emotional peril. Now, there's help.
Feel like a creep magnet? Theo got an earful from readers who do. Here's what you said...
People don't plan to change their opinions, get pregnant, lose their virginity, fall in love with the wrong guy ... or do they?
In the olden days, women had all the power when it came to wooing men. Now, the rituals of romance put them at a disadvantage.
After centuries of struggles, are Protestants and Catholics really all that different? The answer could affect your love life.
Ever thought of having a virtual fling? It may be more than you
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