Perhaps the first step is not simply to examine what God's word says about gender but also to examine what it doesn't say.
Porn's isolating emphasis on pleasing myself actually made me less myself.
God loves sex—when it’s satisfying sexually, emotionally, and spiritually—and that only happens in the confines of marriage.
There's a lot of talk these days about the purity movement. Is it really in your best interest to save sex for marriage or does it set you up for disappointment?
Three steps to being successful with your commitment to sexual purity
There's only one way to rob shame of its power.
Let's consider the potential damage fantasy sex can do to a man and his hopes to have a wife and children.
Let's take a stand together and say no to Fifty Shades of Grey.
Why do sexual choices seem to create such lasting shame?
Sexual purity may be expressed by what you do with your body, but it is ultimately rooted in your mind, your heart and your soul.
Don't believe the lie that your past disqualifies you from having God's best for your future.
A woman's prerogative to say "no" to a man
Sex madness is not first a problem of situation, location or relationship. Our problems are deeply spiritual.
Is there a point where a "passion for purity" becomes too much?
There is a path forward for those who have been sexually active, and it takes us through the very heart of the Gospel.
The path to purity requires finding the real among the counterfeits. Here's help for being set free from pornography.
From ages 12 to 20, I was addicted to reading erotic stories on the Internet. Here's how God lifted me from the pit and renewed my self-worth.
Are you hoping for mind-blowing sex on your wedding night? Remember, a satisfying honeymoon takes careful preparation and realistic expectations.
Dating couples need a game plan: a set of ideas, attitudes and actions that will help them glorify God and safeguard their relationship from premarital sex.
Sex isn't simple, so as you anticipate your wedding, spend time preparing for the honeymoon, too. Here are some ideas to get your sex life off to a great start.
Femininity intentionally cultivated and displayed brings God glory. Learn how to value and cherish your sexuality as much as the One who created it does.
A man's sexuality is a lot like a spring. It seems to be always on and often has no real direction. Here's how to channel it toward life-giving pursuits.
"Virginity's well and good," you say, "but not everyone has waited." What can be said to readers who have already crossed the line? You asked; we're answering.
Too many men and women lack a vision, anchored in good theology, of the body, sex, marriage and chastity. Rediscover that compelling vision here.
Lust destroys men's vision. Godly living, though, brings healing.
Is your view of marital love influenced more by pornography and secular culture than the Bible? Discover what a Christ-centered sexual ethic entails.
Graglia and Krasnow thought they had it all. Till they started listening to their instincts.
You can be a victor through Christ.
Fearing the male sex drive has damaged a lot of lives.
How our sex drive can bring us closer to God or further away.
Rediscover the language of the body.
Overcoming sexual guilt and avoiding infidelity in your new marriage
The one thing no one ever tells you about sex.
Where in the Bible does it specifically say premarital sex is wrong?
Sex is about union. And a foretaste of something even better.
Just say no to smut.
Pornography, that is.
When it comes to porn, every man must decide who he will be, whom he will serve and how he will love.
More than being about the love of someone of the same sex, homosexuality often seems to be the sexualized love of oneself, projected on to another.
The tendency in relationships is to push the physical boundaries. But there's a reason God asks for ultimate purity.
A book about chastity is pointing the way in our sex-saturated culture.
What's the big deal about pre-marital sex? Professor Theophilus demonstrates with a piece of duct tape in this fictional story.
We're all enthralled by nudity but none of us actually wants to be naked.
The difficult truth is that some of us have created our own wearisome chains. The good news is that there's a key to unlock them.
Leaving the gay lifestyle is not easy. But Christians who have struggled with same-sex attraction are not without hope.
A search for security and acceptance takes one woman through isolation, same-sex "marriage" ... and redemption.
An advice columnist's message about sexuality misses the mark.
Evangelical singles are in fact more likely to engage in sexual relationships than non-evangelicals, and at an earlier age. So what?
More than a Victorian-era hang-up, modesty is a part of human nature that protects true love, empowers women and preserves culture.
You may be shocked at what goes on behind the doors of campus health care centers.
In this second excerpt of the interview we conducted with Scott Croft and Michael Lawrence, we explore celibacy and the normalcy of marriage.
This is the first of two excerpts of an interview we conducted with Scott Croft and Michael Lawrence, addressing sexuality in dating relationships.
Professor Theophilus references the very nature of God to help us better understand how men and women are, at their core, quite different from each other.
"Differences between the sexes start with anatomy," Professor Theophilus posited, "but do they end there?"
Can those scholars be right who say that viewing porn can actually improve relationships? Ryan and Rich, and their families, would say "no."
Single men must know now that what they do prior to marriage is not inconsequential to what happens in marriage. They will reap what they sow.
Huge strides toward divine redemption.
Small steps to big mistakes.
She never doubted that abstinence was right. But she still wondered if something was wrong with her. She doesn't any more.
Sharyn says if you haven't had sex, you've got nothing to be shy about. Just the opposite.
It’s gone “mainstream,” but that doesn’t mean you have to act like it’s OK. Marshall shows a Christian way to take a stand.
Theophilus says it's not as difficult to stop as you might think.
Men and women are different. There's no getting around that fact. But when we try to avoid it, and try we do, the outcome is downright comical.
Believe it or not, we may be on the verge of a moral comeback, says Tom Wolfe in his book, Hooking Up.
Ever felt like you and your computer have a dirty little secret? You're not alone.
Since when does women's soccer and sexual purity go together?
Last time Theophilus had a conversation with a gay student, the complaints poured in. "That couldn't be a real dialogue," you said. These events are real.
I get more email from college students about heterosexuality than about anything else — except for homosexuality. If you've ever wondered why I write so often about sex, now you know.
Women's magazines gave birth to feminism, right? So why do they look like guides to improving your sex techniques so a man will want to marry you?
Accused of being homophobic, Theophilus goes toe-to-toe with a gay student.
You have to wonder about a worldview that justifies violence against women.
Ever think porn is just an innocent little pastime? Read Hall's story; you may think again.
Subversive Virginity told us all about the power of female purity. Now it's the guys' turn. Sarah's at it again, stirring up controversy in all the right places.
When are good female friends more than friends? When a lesbian historian says they are.
The sexual revolution began earlier than you think.
When it was time for sex ed, Wendy Shalit opted out. Now she says she’s the one who’s well adjusted, in her book about modesty.
Last month Theophilus talked with Mary about faith and reason and homosexuality, this month they resume their conversation.
Some college students play word games — just like the President.
So you’ve saved yourself for marriage, only to find your fiancée isn’t a virgin. Is her "experience" an asset or asking for trouble?
“For nearly a decade, my role in the feminist movement as a lesbian activist fulfilled me. When the bitterness and anger started to suffocate me, where could I go?”
In a culture of easy access, virginity is where real sexual power lies.
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