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10 Reasons Why Men Delay Getting Married


According to a National Marriage Project study that’s a few years old now, men have a hard time committing because of the following reasons:

  1. They can get sex without marriage more easily than in times past.
  2. They can enjoy the benefits of having a wife by cohabiting rather than marrying.
  3. They want to avoid divorce and its financial risks.
  4. They want to wait until they are older to have children.
  5. They fear that marriage will require too many changes and compromises.
  6. They are waiting for the perfect soul mate and she hasn’t yet appeared.
  7. They face few social pressures to marry.
  8. They are reluctant to marry a woman who already has children.
  9. They want to own a house before they get a wife.
  10. They want to enjoy single life as long as they can.

The conclusion of the Rutgers study sums up the root of the problem:

Men can get many of the benefits of marriage without the commitment to marriage…. Cohabitation gives men regular access to the domestic and sexual ministrations of a girlfriend while allowing them greater legal, social and psychological freedom to lead a more independent life and to continue to look around for a better partner.

Sounds a lot like Steve’s conclusion in his blog post “that too many singles are “enjoying the sexual and companionship perks of marriage without having to take on the responsibilities that go with them.”

Is there a specific solution to men’s non-committal attitudes? I think so. Women can stop giving their boyfriends the emotional and physical benefits that belong inside marriage. And single marriage-age men can take responsibility, take initiative, take a chance, and do the loving, godly thing.


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