You don’t have to be a Christian to believe hooking up can have devastating effects on your mind and body. But for some, it takes experiencing it to come to the point where it’s not a option anymore.
That’s what happened to Vanderbilt student Frannie Boyle. She decided to quit the hook-up scene after her freshman year because of the “unhappiness she experienced afterward.” From CNN.com’s “No hooking up, no sex for some coeds“:
Casual hook ups fueled by alcohol may be the norm across college campuses, but Boyle, now a 21-year-old junior at the school, chose to stop. Her reasons to quit hooking up echo the emotional devastation of many college students, particularly girls whose hearts are broken by the hook-up scene.
‘I saw it [hooking up] as a way to be recognized and get satisfaction,’ said Boyle, shaking her blond ponytail. ‘I felt so empty then.’
The hook-up culture on campuses may seem more pervasive than ever, especially as media outlets, books and documentaries rush to dissect the subject, but some college women and men are saying no.
In it’s place is a call for more traditional dating. Sadly, saying yes to dating doesn’t mean they’re saying no to sex.
On Facebook.com, several groups are rooting for the traditional dates. The motto on the group Bring Dating Back reads, ‘This group is for all those girls who wish that once in a while a guy would take her out on a date before trying to get her into bed. At least invite us to dinner before expecting us to get down and dirty!’
If they think dinner is all that’s required to get rid of that empty feeling after casual sex, then they really haven’t learned anything.