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Where’s Your Motivation to Marry, Guys?

Over the past week, I’ve spoken with two attractive, gifted single women about the headaches of dating. Both of these women have great jobs here at Focus on the Family, are fun to be with and have a lot to offer in the roles they’d love to play some day as wives.

Too many times I’ve heard them talk through the frustrations of pseudo-relationships, quasi-dates and bizarre exchanges with online suitors.

As I hear these stories, I so often scratch my head and think, How can so many guys miss how great of a catch these girls are? As I think back to college, I see that these are the kinds of girls that my friends and I would have been competing to date.

I remember a conversation I had with a guy named Jim who met his wife in the ’80s. He described seeing a girl named Mary and thinking, I better marry her before someone else does.

Are there any guys thinking like that these days?

I’m not trying to pile onto guys. I know from our emails and blog comments that there are some solid and well-motivated guys among our readers. Too often, however, I hear stories of guys acting like they have all the time in the world to evaluate their options regardless of the wear and tear they might be putting on the hearts of the women in their lives.

I hate to sound too doom and gloom, but a lot of today’s single guys need to keep in mind what a 40-something single friend of mine once said: “Looking back now, I realize that I let a lot of good opportunities pass me by.”

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Steve Watters

Steve Watters is the vice president of communications at Southern Baptist Theological Seminary where he is also a student. Steve and his wife, Candice, were the founders of Boundless, and Steve served as the director of young adults at Focus on the Family for several years before leaving for seminary.


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