How single men can prepare now for a happy family life later
A guide for thinking about the intersection of your passion and your work
Be refreshingly honest, pour out your heart to a kind God, build a spiritual family, and live a full-throttle life.
The way to happiness is when we exchange our sin and selfishness and small dreams for something harder and better and God-honoring.
Christian ministry isn't the only way to bring God glory through your work.
Debt is a big deal. Here's how to stay away from all its craziness.
Destructive relationship patterns can get passed down from one generation to the next. Here's how you can set a new precedent for your future family.
Advice for single men whom God has given the desire for marriage but who have not yet found a wife.
Motherhood is a high calling for all women — whether single, married, fertile or infertile
Why retirement planning should matter to you (yes, you)
Navigating a series of "almost" relationships can be wearisome. But this inconvenient process may also be the very means God is using to mature you.
Success is more within our power than we tend to think — even for big, hairy, scary goals.
How to know when it makes more sense to rent and when you're ready to buy your first home
What does it mean to be siblings in Christ?
If you're really serious about getting out of debt and pursuing your dreams, you have to get intentional about it.
If we want a happy marriage in the future, we need to take selfishness seriously now.
Every single person with any combination of Money Personalities can learn to be a cheerful giver.
For all of us, life is about timing — God's, not ours.
If you are seriously dating, you want to make sure your significant other approaches money in a way you can live with and appreciate.
The pain of being left out as a single young adult is real, but there are practical things you can do to make it better.
You may think your reasons for having babies are biblical, but if you're like me, you've absorbed a lot more culture and a lot less Bible than you realize.
For those who are beginning their careers, here are four key principles for on-the-job success.
As you pray about and pursue relationships, consider these three steps to find your match.
Yes, marriage is one way God matures us, and it can be fairly intense. But it is not the only way.
The key to loving your siblings well is grace and intentionality.
God commands it, and your future wife will love you for it. Are you up for the challenge of being the primary financial provider for your family?
If getting married is something you hope to do, your parents (or other parental surrogates) are likely among your best advocates.
The book of Ruth has much to say about getting to marriage in difficult circumstances, under the watchful, purposeful sovereignty of God.
When you think about giving, are you thinking about God's pledge of blessing or grumbling about your ever-decreasing wallet?
Women tend to feel the struggle of untangling the modern conflicts of life, love and labor most keenly, but ultimately this issue affects the whole family.
In a day when more women can bring home their personal bacon and fry it up in a pan, where does that leave their need for men?
The 'normal' way American young adults spend money is a problem. Learn how to live within your means with these three practical steps.
It's important that we admit we don't have life all figured out and seek out wise mentors to help guide us.
How should post-college Christians respond to desires or opportunities to switch jobs or careers? Here are four principles to guide you in making this decision.
It's easy to feel justified in resenting a fallen father.
Validation comes at a high price – but who cares, as long as your parent is footing the bill?
If you're a woman who appears to be within childbearing age, people make assumptions. Learn how to handle their expectations with grace and femininity.
Many say abortion is the closest thing to a solution in cases of rape. Here's research that shows it isn't in the best interest of either mother or child.
How should we then work?
If you grew up in a home that withheld the blessing, take heart.
As single women cultivate godly attitudes and avoid damaging lies, they allow the Lord to pour out the things He has for them.
What do women do that make good, timely marriages less likely?
Dana didn't have enough stuff, she thought. Then she thought again.
On the journey to finding a mate, it's best to travel light.
What two funerals taught me about singleness and fruitfulness
If only I had known how my choices would affect my life and my relationships
Dying to self doesn't happen in an evening.
Going through a breakup can be one of the most difficult things you'll ever experience. Lauren offers some advice and wisdom about the breakup blues.
Emotional pain won’t just go away if you ignore it; you've got to deal with it.
Trusting God with a hope denied
I used to think I could fit kids into my life. Now I'm not so sure.
When something everyone thinks is normal is not an option for you, you live differently.
How does a person navigate him or herself into adulthood and maintain a healthy respect for their parents?
How could I go on without her?
Step back and observe what your parents did and taught to see how it lines up with God’s perspective.
It's an age-old question that won't be silenced.
Help for figuring out if graduate school would help you better pursue God's calling on your life
How to find what excites you, will qualify you for a job, and uses your gifts and talents
For months, Todd's been sharing his financial wisdom. Ever wonder where he got it? Now he shares his personal story of recovery from crushing debt.
What is God's view on borrowing, saving and giving?
Too many 20-somethings are delaying some of the most personally satisfying pursuits. It doesn't have to be that way.
How your current circumstances can be the training ground for future successes
Keeping an unwavering faith in the midst of a difficult reality
Fear could jump-start your parental preparation. And parental frustrations could lead to personal reformation.
Instead of simply handing Dad another tie this Father's Day, thank him for making a difference in your life.
How to wait on the Lord and trust His perfect plan for your life, while taking steps to prepare yourself to be a good wife and mother
Those who desire to do well with their lives can still commit their share of confused meandering. Here's one way to stop it from happening to you.
Society makes it sound like having a child is the end of the good life. Actually, it’s the beginning of a better life.
Thirty years old and still praying for a spouse? Here's encouragement as you continue on the journey.
Work and recreation matter to God
It's no easier if the split comes after you've left home. So what can you do to get through the tough times?
You asked "What does it mean to be 'called to singleness' for your life? How do you know if you're called to it?" Theo answers.
As busy as college life seems, it’s a lot slower than the work-a-day world that lies ahead. So make the most of these “lazy” days. Cornell shows you how.
Even if you don't have a significant other, there's still time to make this Valentine's Day the best yet.
Every choice makes the next one easier or harder, depending on what we've chosen to do.
Celebrating the season is about more than just adding activities to an already packed schedule.
The consequences for the Christian who's been adopted by a heavenly Father are considerable.
For most people, singleness is a temporary season. I wish I had more actively embraced its gifts before it ended.
Letting go of expectations can be painful but freeing.
No one told me the dirty little secret about becoming a mother ... that I would never feel the same about work.
We're called to pray about everything. So what should prayer for a husband look like?
What does it mean for large sectors of our society to become virtual matriarchies?
"Saving yourself" for marriage is one way to bless your soon-to-be spouse. But there's value in saving other things as well.
Witnessing to total strangers on the street is one thing. But sharing the gospel with family brings things to an entirely new level.
As a single adult, you have some great opportunities to experiment in the kitchen and enjoy practicing hospitality.
When your parents treat you like a child, what should you do? Read these stories from young adults who can relate, and pick up some ideas of how to respond.
Yes, we want to get married eventually — but only after we've experienced the freedom of our 20s and had a chance to get know ourselves better.
It had been many years since we'd talked about values and dreams and plans and goals. It was time for a refresher.
You don't just lose a job when you lose a job. No matter what the truth is, it can still feel like you're worthless. And that matters enough.
It's not so much where you live, but how, that matters.
One reader thinks the Boundless money columnist has done everything right financially. But she's wrong.
With female students now outnumbering males on most college campuses, many guys don't lead simply because they don't have to.
"How did you know what God wanted you to do with your life?" my friend's daughter asked me one day.
Some say less is more. Where money is concerned, though, more can be less.
Sometimes you're just facing normal obstacles on the path to success. And sometimes the dream needs to die entirely.
Clutter hinders action and opportunity.
The holidays can be a lonely time. For me, they were very lonely.
Haven't met your future mate? Getting anxious? Relax; you've got things to do while you wait. Here are eight suggestions for flourishing in The Meantime.
The years are not lost. They've only been let go.
When does a boy become a man? (Hint: It’s not your age.) Find out if you have what it takes to be a godly man.
Getting things done at the last minute can be quite a rush. Giving up the rush can be a hard habit to break.
My formal education may have come to a close, but I soon discovered my real, practical, hands-on education was just beginning.
In my campaign against intentional delay have I diminished godly waiting?
If God could waste a perfectly good Messiah on us, why couldn't I waste something on Him?
In community with God's people, singles can discern their calling and (where appropriate) pursue marriage honorably.
It had become a box of bitterness.
All I had was God and the flimsy conviction that He had called me to this work. Frankly, that didn't feel like enough.
I must admit that my ship of singleness feels a little less even-keel than it used to.
Just because you're out of work doesn't mean that God doesn't have plans for your life right now.
A candid talk about singleness from a couple who spent most of their lives as singles.
Watching friend after friend find true love can be discouraging, but it can also be an opportunity to shine.
There's a reason what you want most seems so hard to achieve. Now some practical advice for getting there.
College is for learning. But you can learn significant lessons outside the classroom — even on summer break.
We may have something to learn about management of time and paperwork from a guy who's gone from pigsty dorm room to clean and efficient home office.
I was seven weeks and six days pregnant. And something didn't feel quite right.
As time goes on, it grows more clear to me that while my waiting years are a loss, they are not a waste.
Some of my greatest teachers have been under the age of 10.
I was overwhelmingly frustrated: Why in the world can't I handle one tiny baby and a 1,200 square foot house?
Don't sacrifice integrity just to get a good deal.
Kimberly's search silenced the questions that had swirled in her mind for most of her life.
Numbers don't automatically create a loving community, but ...
If holidays with your family leave you feeling depressed, it may be time for some new resolutions.
How I serve God in the world has more to do with my heart than my marital status.
In the mommy wars, every believing woman needs to enlist.
Maybe you're done with people. Maybe you've decided real relationships are a nice accessory to life, but ultimately not worth the pain.
Most future-minded college students prize their academic record. But they ignore another kind of record that’s even more powerful: their credit record.
Choosing an occupation can be dizzying. Doesn't have to be that way.
Will I find that my savings have rotted one day because I refused to turn them over to God?
You don't have to be a genius to learn about money. Financial lessons abound. Even in Dr. Seuss storybooks.
Tired of hearing that debt is bad? Temple's here to show you how to get into debt — lots of it.
Would you rather be "happy" or "blessed"?
You're in a financial hole — and it's a deep one. How do you even begin to get out?
George was tired of working for The Man. Thanks to the Lord and his fiancée, he no longer is.
I saw in Dad's hands an ideal, and to me they represented a hard-working man who labored diligently to support his family.
Family life offers many blessings for the stay-at-home single adult, provided that we use this stage to actively and responsibly build a future.
What mistakes do I need to avoid when buying a home — and is there anything distinctive a Christian home buyer needs to consider?
You can get there by breaking the rules.
Most women want to be stay-at-home moms. Heather decided to make that happen.
I know the One who should captivate my heart. Why then, am I so easily distracted?
The next big entrepreneurial success won't start in a garage.
How can we integrate our faith with what we do with most of our waking hours: work?
Being alone. For some, it's painful. For some, glorious. And for some, it's both.
Your friends' relationships are moving along nicely and you're still painfully single. Even in the midst of such unfulfilled desire it is possible to be thankful.
Pursue winning, but Christianly.
Faithfulness today with whatever you currently have to work with is the path God calls you to take.
Three books are mined for truth about singleness and marriage.
For me, the most chilling money verse in the Bible is Luke 16:11. What does it say? And what can I learn from it?
To stay at home with your kids, it's best to start planning now. But what happens when it's too late to plan? Or your plans just didn't work?
Think you want to stay home to raise your future children? Think you don't? Either way, you should read this.
Tell your loved ones how you feel. Now.
It's time to grow up.
Though they might seem compassionate, some singles ministries are actually more of a hindrance.
Some are good. Others can set you up for failure.
Last month we talked about "why" you would want to pay off your mortgage. Now we talk about "how."
The death of a loved one is devastating, even if that loved one has never been born.
How do I look at a mortgage from a distinctly biblical worldview? Should it be my goal to pay it off?
A lakeside cabin retreat inspired some big dreams, dreams later brought into perspective by a day of rest.
"They sold their possessions and their goods," I read. Well, that's nice, I thought — for them.
Like our forefathers, this generation faces a crisis and an opportunity.
It's far too risky to wait until your loved one is on their deathbed.
Though not obvious, there's a meaningful link between the increase in childless couples and the weakening of marriage among the non-college educated.
All his father left him was his razor and shaving brush. And an emptiness that endures decades later.
I didn't expect a sermon from the 1700s to teach me much. But he was right then, and, surprising to me, right now.
We tell ourselves that we'd never sell our birthright for a bowl of stew. But do we just have a higher price?
Most well-educated women have chosen to stay at home with their babies rather than work in the market economy. Now why would some people find that shameful?
A pervasive myth in our culture is that commitment and sacrifice are barriers to our fulfillment - but family is really the path to fulfillment.
Single men have asked "Who should I marry?" and "When should I marry?" But now they're finding themselves asking a more fundamental question: "Why marry?"
It was only a 30-second radio commercial. But it reminded me about the true meaning of stewardship — that He is the owner and I'm just the steward.
We can see our longings as a bittersweet gift if we can look up from the tangled web of our own desires and see that they point past us, past the other person, to something more infinite.
Maybe it's not the mortgage that's the problem, but the attitude that sometimes goes with it.
It's time to buy a car. Since it's likely the second-largest purchase you'll ever make, you better get it right.
Children are no longer viewed as an essential part of what it means to live the "good life." But they are. And parents are better people for them.
Of course, for many women, it is a wise financial move to buy rather than rent. But if marriage is your goal, it isn't your only investment option.
An Okie's brush with Texas Hold'em spurs some tough questions about poker.
Is extended adolescence a natural and beneficial sign of social evolution? Or is it a symptom of something more ominous festering in our hearts?
A popular financial author advises how you can "finish rich." But is that what a Christian should be concerned with?
A loved one dies. What can we do with our regrets? What can we do with the questions that seem to have no answers?
Those few who are gifted to forgo marriage for the sake of the kingdom of heaven are to be commended. But maybe we should stop calling singleness itself a gift.
The myth of "balance" is one of our culture's most pervasive and destructive myths. And Perpetua did not fall for it.
You may not find "credit card" in your concordance, but the Bible has a lot to say on the subject. This time of year, more than ever, we need to listen.
I wanted to take care of my baby full time. But doing so seemed financial risky. I found myself hesitant to do the right thing because of fear.
Gender roles are attacked — and defended — regularly on college campuses. For Dyck, settling the issue and moving on is part of growing up.
A new study says we're lousy at saving for retirement. Is that a problem?
Judith Warner's book, "Perfect Madness" is getting a lot of press, as is the broader topic of mommy anxiety. It's high time to expose Warner's whining.
One gamer has the courage to tell the story of addiction, and how he's broken free.
They say 30 is the new 20. So what do we have to show for all that extra time spent growing up?
Becoming a dad is relatively easy, biologically speaking. Becoming a good dad, now that's a whole different story.
Are you getting ready to tie the knot? How about preparing to share the purse strings?
Oh the heels of big name books that slam motherhood, one author's writing about some surprising benefits to having babies.
For a generation of singles, living life to the fullest could spell the end of life.
Thinking of buying a home? Here’s how to make sure you’re ready — and that you buy smart.
Guys, you may not be tempted by shoe clearance sales. But do you know your three money blind spots?
It’s true you can’t choose when you’ll be born. But you can determine how you’ll live. And how you’ll respond to the unexpected.
Asking God to help you find a mate is a good thing. Here are a few tips for how to pray boldly for marriage.
Are you feeling lonely? Consider these tips from money coach Sharon Durling. They may save your self-esteem and your wallet.
Finding a place to live is about more than lot size, square footage and resale. It's about finding your way home.
Just months away from graduation and still without a major, Julie is at Theophilus' door, desperate for some guidance.
Some say 30 is today's 20. Authors Rubin and Macko say for women, 30 is mid-life — crisis and all.
It's no fun learning about credit the hard way. Better to read someone else's story and do what they didn't. This is that story.
Sometimes finding out what makes you come alive starts with learning what makes you miserable.
Your strengths, and not your weaknesses, are where you should focus your energy.
I always knew Christmas and money go together; it took a melancholy cartoon character to help me learn how.
Readers agree — celibacy sounds good in theory. Now for a little practical advice.
Some people choose their majors for really good reasons. I was not one of those people.
Giving thanks with my mouth was easy. Giving thanks with my checkbook wasn’t.
Why is it some people's path to the altar is just a few footsteps long? Mine felt like a marathon.
Just graduated? Just married? Then taxes are coming for you. Are you ready?
As graduation nears, maybe it's more important to plan for who, than what, you want to be.
For most people, singleness is a temporary season. This author wishes she had more actively embraced its gifts before it ended.
Getting school loans is the easy part. What's harder is figuring out how to pay them back without sacrificing your family's future.
Motherhood is a blessing, but sometimes even strong pro-lifers subconsciously think otherwise. Megan shows us why.
What I learned at a small cottage about goals and God’s purposes.
Discovering the wealth of the king.
The difference between trying to get people to like you and learning to love like God does.
How a visit with Elvis changed my dad’s view of talent.
Even after a rape, abortion is never the answer: Choosing life is best for both mother and child.
What should you do when your family takes the focus of Christmas off Christ?
Tough lessons and hard-wrought wisdom from Steve’s first job out of college.
The frustrations of pesky parents and the imperfections of those they’d like us to date.
It's never too late to do what God created you to do.
Some think it takes guys 30 years to become adults. The question is, do you meet these low expectations or exceed them?
“Ambition” doesn’t have to be a dirty word for Christians.
The Christian life isn't just work. It's also play.
Writing and living a mission statement for the hungry years.
Dreaming up your future while you snack on ramen noodles.
Last time Eddie tried to explain away his drinking. This time Theo's getting to the real reasons.
Easy credit abounds — especially in college mail boxes. So how do you balance all that quick money with the potential for staggering debt? Glad you asked.
Why would a student who believes God created the universe major in evolutionary biology? Because that's where he figured he was most needed.
He never drinks too much except on weekends. Or when he’s celebrating. Or he needs cheering up. Or ... excuses, excuses.
Some of the richest, most successful people in the world are lonely. Maybe you are, too. You don’t have to be.
Retailers know what'll get you into their store, what makes you want to buy and how to get you to buy more than you came for. Don't be a victim.
Some people say "why not?" Others say "absolutely not!" Lindy sorts through the issues.
For the small-time investor, mutual funds may be just the thing.
It's a good thing to start a savings account. But where earning interest is concerned, there are much better ways to do it.
Not sure what you’re going to do after college? Don’t hurry to come up with an answer; God may have some surprises.
You can vote for more than just political candidates. You can vote for consumer products — the ones that match what you believe in.
Should you apply to grad school? Maybe, but you need to think about a few things going in.
Dana's lesson: Don't throw yourself overboard trying to find "the right one." Just keep paddling.
You may not have much money. But with the right strategy, you can make almost nothing grow into something.
You've met Richard, whose girlfriend had an abortion. Now meet his girlfriend and his brother; one's grateful to Theo, the other's boiling mad.
How you handle credit cards can help make or break your sense of personal responsibility. Take it from someone who learned the hard way.
Many men don't want their children to be aborted. What do they do when they can't stop it?
Her dad took off a long time ago. She still has days when she cries about it. But she also has something — Some One — else.
Of all the reasons to buy a new car, the best is that new car smell, says Temple. But you can always get a 99 cent air freshener. That's why he buys used.
Why does college cost you so much? For the answer, follow the money trail -- to Washington, D.C.
Not without controversy, Buchanan's new book raises some good points about Americans' failure to have children. And looking at my graduating class, I'd have to say he's not far off the mark.
Ever feel like your classwork is keeping you from becoming the person you really want to be?
Last month Todd had advice for staying out of debt. If you’re one of the many who are already in it, this classic Temple column is for you.
Too often, we don't realize a good thing till it's gone. That's saddest when the good thing is a grandparent.
The holidays can really sink your finances. This month's classic Money Talks column offers some tips for avoiding the debt trap.
It's a fact: We will never be able to afford what we want. Maybe that's because what we're really after can't be bought.
After a long wait, the conclusion to Richard's conversation with Theophilus about his girlfriend's abortion is here.
You, or your future wife, are not doomed to a nine-to-five job like some would have you believe.
When someone says they're gay, they get all the attention. But what about those they leave behind?
It’s tempting to go for the glamour when choosing a major. But as this quirky film reminds us, choosing a path that pays the bills is a noble task.
Ever feel like running from responsibility? In many ways, college is the perfect place to hide.
The pain of breaking up kind of makes you long for something better.
Can abortion make you suicidal? What if you're a man?
It was just a simple little Christmas gift. But it didn't stay simple for long.
In life, two things are unavoidable: death and taxes. We'll talk about death another day.
Sometimes, a trip home for the holidays can be a painful experience. Especially when you've changed.
One reader thought Temple was encouraging readers to invest with no eye toward morality. Here he sets the record straight.
Sometimes getting school loans can be easy — too easy. It's not until after graduation that the painful reality of what you've done sinks in.
When it comes to saving money, not everybody's doing it. You gotta' be willing to be different.
He isn't like other boys his age. But to me, he is perfect.
For too long, Christians have shunned the arts; particularly drama. It's time we re-evaluate our perspective, says Professor Camille Hallstrom in this interview with Boundless.
Ever feel like you'll never find Mr./Ms. Right? Hinlicky's advice might help.
"It seems like everyone's getting rich off the stock market these days. Everyone, that is, but you." If this sounds familiar, read on. Temple's primer on investing may be just what you need to get started.
Administrators wring their hands over it. Students shrug their shoulders over it. Maybe it's time to look at the deeper consequences.
When you think of gambling, what comes to mind? Tawdry showgirls and Vegas "adventures," or your roommate's computer and Saturday's home football game? It may be time to rethink.
You may think investing is something you'll get around to in the future. But the future is exactly what you should start planning for now. Temple makes it easy.
Men are declining says Prof. Tiger. The question remians: Why?
Morse reviews Danielle Crittenden's book, What Our Mothers Didn't Tell Us: Why Happiness Eludes the Modern Woman
When romance goes sour, the healing can take a while. Even for a guy.
New Years Resolutions abound this time of year. If studying harder is among yours, read on. John tells you how, starting with the library couch.
’Fessing up to a change in course work can be scary. Finally, some advice that’s bound to work.
For college students short on cash (is there another type?) there's one sure way to financial success — and it's not the lottery.
You say you want a career and someday, children. How will you balance them? Today’s mommies and daddies are blazing the trail.
Los Angeles talk show host and world-renowned speaker discusses powerful ideas to propel you beyond college.
It's not what you study in college but what you love that will determine your success in life.
Money management can be easy and, dare we say, kind of fun.
Wiegand’s decision to be a full-time mom made sense to her, but to her Harvard colleagues, it was a break in her all-important career stream.
One man's story of money. How it broke him in college.
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