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At Least It’s Not Porn

During college, when I decided to grow a mullet and go to Peru and design my own tattoo, my parents let me. I can imagine them in bed each night reminding each other, “Well, it could be worse. At least he hasn’t pierced his ears.”

For some reason, getting my ears pierced was one of the most extreme things I could do. As long as I didn’t do that, they were happy.

Hair, tattoos, bungee jumping, auditioning for Wipeout.


Man Math: Episode 430

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Question to Discuss: Where’s the best place to meet Christian singles in your community?

Roundtable: Women in Power

For the first time in history, a majority of first-world women are not necessarily dependent on or defined by the men they may eventually marry. Single women are embracing the benefits of this new-found power like never before, but what does it mean for Christian women? Are the rules different? Our panel of women brings experience and encouragement to this timely conversation.


A Year of Marriage

My husband and I recently celebrated our first anniversary.

I’ve already blogged about our engagement and my thoughts on those first few months of being wed, and it’s hard to believe it’s been a year. But what a year it’s been! We celebrated our first anniversary by announcing that Baby Hendley will be arriving in September.

I was 33 when I got married. My timeline for my life included marriage by 28 and a baby by 30.


Why You Should Say Yes More Often

Maybe you’ve been in this situation. You’re sitting in a meeting and someone throws out a wild, crazy idea. Your brain immediately begins poking holes in said idea, scrolling through all of the reasons it’s likely doomed to failure. If you’re like me — an introvert — you may not actually voice your concerns. You figure as everyone talks, someone else will shoot it down.

But every once in a while, something magical happens. Someone else in the group says, “Yes, and …” and goes on to suggest how to make the first person’s idea work.


How to Get Free from Procrastination

When I’m writing an article and I’m at a loss for words, I’ve got a nasty little habit: I check my email, go to a news website or check social media. In other words, I procrastinate.

I started noticing it when I was in my late 20s, and I’ve always suspected it was how I coped with the stress of writer’s block. As it turns out, I was right.

The Wall Street Journal recently explored the origins of procrastination in “To Stop Procrastinating, Start by Understanding the Emotions Involved.” In the article, researchers describe chronic procrastination as a “strategy for dealing with stress.”

It says, “Scientists define procrastination as the voluntary delay of an action despite foreseeable negative future consequences.


My Mom Is Killing Me

After Christmas, my mom came to live with me in Colorado. It’s been a rough road.

Very rough.

I knew it would be hard, but I wasn’t prepared for it to be this hard.

My mom is now 87 with moderate dementia. She is slow-moving. She is feisty. She needs varying degrees of assistance with showering, going to the bathroom, dressing, and generally determining her next move. (How about reading your book, Mom? Want to watch this DVD?


Power Trip: Episode 429

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Question to Discuss: What do you do when your prayers don’t match God’s answers?

Roundtable: Future Families

Modern medical strides aside, a woman’s biological clock is a real issue. Changes in fertility occur over time, and as a result there are key facts to be aware of. What do you need to know about the realities of fertility and reproduction? Our panel of physicians diffuses the hype and provides honest information and encouragement to women and men as they consider their future families.


Confessions of a Life Hypochondriac

I’ve always been a bit of a scaredy-cat. But lately, fear seems to be getting to me more than usual. It’s a little bit like being a hypochondriac — someone who constantly worries that they have a life-threatening medical condition; when something goes wrong, I immediately consider the worst-case scenario. To be honest, some of my fears are founded, such as my worries about how my son with special needs will fare in this world.


The Reason I’m Not Going to Hell

When I was in my 20s, I was obsessed with the fear that I was not actually saved — that my so-called “faith” was nothing but an elaborate web of self-deception that would end in eternal damnation.

I wasn’t sure what to do to rescue myself, but leaders and fellow church members kept reminding everyone to strive for holiness and “press into” God, which I interpreted to mean “try harder.”

So I did.

I eliminated magazines, movies, TV shows and dates from my life.


The Subtle Art of Throwing Great Parties

When was the last time you went to a great party? I’m not talking about great in a worldly sense. I’m talking about a memorable party where you had fun and felt included. As I mentioned in my feature article, “How to Influence Culture Without Being Seduced by It,” one of the best ways to influence, and love, those around you is by throwing great parties.

Research shows that young adults are more lonely and disconnected than ever before.