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What We Get From Waiting

by Leah Sargent

I hate to wait. Long lines are torture. Put me on hold? No, thanks; I’ll call back later. Winter is the worst of all. All of the waiting through snow, ice and cold for spring — waiting to feel alive again — it seems like it will never end.

I’ve never been good at waiting. But in the last few years, I’ve done a lot of it. Maybe you’re there too, waiting for just about everything and wondering if the wait will ever be over.

Lisa Anderson and Brian Ivie

The Drop Box: Episode 369

Listen to this week’s show!

Question to discuss:

Where in Brian Ivie’s story did you see God’s hand? How did the details of Brian’s journey point to a Savior who relentlessly pursues us?

Roundtable: God’s Heart for People With Disabilities

When we think of the sanctity of human life, we tend to think of unborn babies. But what about those in our midst who have physical or mental limitations? We know God cares about them, but do we?


Should I Move to Another Country?

As times change, more young people are striking out from their farms, suburbs and quiet lives to move to the city. Except it’s not just the closest city anymore, but probably a massive metropolis two continents away.

Sure, my friends and I are a rather skewed sample to be analyzing — Hong Kong is, after all, filled with expats from all over the world. Similarly, Singapore, Dubai, New York and London don’t make up the “majority” of the planet’s population.

first date

8 Secrets That Will Make You a Great Date

Have you ever thought about how good you are at dating?

Dating can be an exciting time in life. Most of us think that if it’s the right person, dating will be easy, but that’s not necessarily the case. It’s possible to be a great catch, but really bad at dating.

Dating well involves many skills we can and should work on. Get good at dating. Even if it doesn’t work out with a particular person, make every person you date thankful for the time they spent with you.

Pastor Lee and Brian Ivie

Five Questions With ‘The Drop Box’ Director Brian Ivie

When film student Brian Ivie opened the Los Angeles Times on June 19, 2011, he had no idea that his life was about to change.

Brian read an article titled “South Korean pastor tends an unwanted flock,” which told the story of Lee Jong-rak, a man who was rescuing unwanted babies with the help of a makeshift box he installed at his church in Seoul. Brian thought the story would make an intriguing documentary, so he tracked down Pastor Lee and asked if he could bring a film crew.


Why Can’t We Admit We Want to Be Married?

by Jennifer Adams

She looked at me wanting to know what I wanted to do with my life. We were merely acquaintances meeting for a meal and a chance to get to know each other better. She continued, “If you could do anything you wanted, what would you do?” There was nothing about her that suggested I couldn’t trust her with the truth. In that moment I should have said, “I want to be a wife and mom.

podcast roundtable

See and Be Seen: Episode 368

Listen to this week’s show!

Question to discuss:

What’s your best or worst experience with dropping a hint (or having it dropped) in the dating process?

Roundtable: Ladies, Drop a Hint

We talk a lot about how in dating, men should pursue and women should respond. But does this mean women must be silent and aloof? Not necessarily. There are many ways a woman can indicate interest in a man without taking the reins entirely. Our panel weighs in with some ideas.


Dating Is for Knowing

My fiance, Tyler, and I were out with friends one evening when he offered what I thought was really good relationship advice. We were talking with one of his friends (David) who had just gotten back from a first date with a girl he had been set up with through a mutual friend.

I asked David how the date went, and he thought it went well. He explained how she was easy to talk to and how he enjoyed the two hours they spent talking over a cup of coffee.


Where Are the Blog Comments?

You may be wondering why there’s currently no commenting here on the blog. Trust me; you’re not the only one.

Don’t worry; we’re not tired of hearing from you. We’re not squelching free speech. We’re not abandoning the blog to explore other ventures like Boundless-branded protein shakes or a Boundless reality show (though let’s not rule these out completely).

Here’s the scoop: Focus on the Family recently updated some of our IT platforms, and the updates messed with our blog (the nerve!).

The Drop Box

When I Am Weak, Then I Am Strong

When I went to see a screening of The Drop Box movie, I was already familiar with the story of South Korean pastor Lee Jong-rak. I had read an article about the bin he built into the side of his house where people could leave unwanted babies. I was told to bring Kleenex to the screening, but I did not expect to be crying within the first minute of the film.

This story, captured by now 24-year-old director Brian Ivie, who became a believer while making the film, is truly extraordinary from start to finish.

Melissa and Aaron

Engagement Stories: Melissa & Aaron

Aaron and I were both hesitant about online dating. We were both from small towns in the Midwest, and the idea of meeting your spouse online was a little embarrassing, if not scary. I know I’d also kicked against the idea previously, because it seemed like it wasn’t waiting on God to bring your spouse. My mom even told me that when I broached the subject with her. But, at 27 years old, having never been in a relationship before, and going to a church that had one single male in it, I finally decided to take a friend’s continuous advice to try online dating.

Michelle Singletary

Five Questions With Syndicated Columnist Michelle Singletary

Michelle Singletary is one of the most successful Christian columnists in the United States, and she uses her ever-growing platform to encourage readers to make financially sound decisions.

Michelle makes regular appearances on network TV morning shows, writes for major magazines, and has published three books on financial wellness. And somehow, in the middle of all of that, she managed to found a financial mentorship program at her church for people who need help in getting their finances in order.


Can Creativity Help You Trust God?

by Jonathan Malm

I ran a conference for creative minds. Then I didn’t. I got fired from my dream job.

“We like you, and we think you did a really great job with the conference. And this has nothing to do with you as our friend. We just think…”

The words began blurring as my brain raced through a thousand thoughts. Would I be able to survive financially? Do they even know what a big mistake they’re making?

Cupid Is a Procrastinator

Love Is Patient: Episode 367

Listen to this week’s show!

Question to discuss:

How can you practice more patience in the way you love others?

Roundtable: More Than a Feeling

It’s easy to get caught up in pink hearts and red flowers and call that “love,” especially around Valentine’s Day. But as followers of Christ, we know that love’s got a lot more going for it than cards and candy. Like patience. Um, what? What about patience and other virtues makes love both challenging and breathtakingly beautiful?


Brian Williams and Our Forgiveness Problem

It’s been a tough week for Brian Williams. One of the most recognizable and trusted faces in American media — and just like that — he’s become the crux of countless jokes and memes all over social media. We all had a good laugh at pictures of Williams reporting live from the moon, sitting with Albert Einstein, and even standing with Abraham Lincoln. Twitter blew up with the hashtag #BrianWilliamsMisremembers.

I thought it was all in good fun until I read David Brooks’ Op-Ed yesterday, “The Act of Rigorous Forgiving.” I recommend giving it a good read or two.

Campbell family

Grieving Father, Published Author, Boundless Alumnus

Without taking my eyes off the screen, I turned my face to the side and took another sip of coffee while refreshing for the 10th time. It was every Thursday morning of my undergrad sophomore year in 2004. I was waiting for that week’s three new articles to be uploaded to the site and was hoping for more wisdom from Boundless co-founder Steve Watters; his wife, Candice; and their team to help me test and approve God’s will for my life.

wedding rings

The Benefits to Marrying in Your 30s

Growing up, I didn’t put much thought into not getting married. I just figured I would graduate from college, move someplace interesting, meet a great guy, and get married. I figured that by the time I turned 30 I would be making decisions with a husband and maybe a child or two in the picture.

But that wasn’t God’s script for my life. Instead, I spent most of my 20s single and didn’t meet the man I would marry until I was 31.


Does Culture Matter in Relationships?

In this world of racial equality, color blindness and the push for world peace, many of us have also begun to accept these values as part of our own ethos. As international trade increases and the nations come together in the global marketplace, all the more we’re learning to respect other people’s cultures and languages, including their religious beliefs.

That’s politics, though. What about relationships and eventually marriage? Should we adopt the same attitudes of “color blindness”?


Dear Ramón: A Letter to My Imaginary Son-in-law

Last Thursday morning, my 3-year-old daughter got out of bed, met me at the stairs, looked me in the eyes, and very seriously said, “Daddy, I have a husband.”

“Oh really? What is his name?”

“Ramón,” she said, pronouncing the name “Wah-mone.”

“Can I meet him?” I asked.

She looked away for a moment, then looked back at me and said, “He’s using the bathroom.”

“I see,” I said, and thus began my relationship with my imaginary son-in-law.


The Score of Our Lives

by Matt Papa

If we were honest, most of us would admit we wished our lives were set to a soundtrack written by Hans Zimmer — the most epic, romantic thing imaginable. But, alas, they are not. The soundtrack of most of our lives might be sprinkled occasionally with a few of those Hallmark movie-moments, but the rising melodic line for the majority of our days sounds something like what my 5 year old would compose on the piano. 


Colorado + Summer + You: Episode 366

Listen to this week’s show!

Question to discuss:

Are you coming to Pursuit 2015? On the fence? Still have questions? Share your thoughts here, and those who went to Pursuit 2014, what is your favorite memory from the event?

Roundtable: Pumped Up for Pursuit 2015

What’s new for Pursuit this year? Why is this the event you need to attend this summer? What’s this thing called the VIP Experience, and did someone say there’s an early-bird registration price?

February Desktop Wallpaper

February Desktop Wallpaper Calendar Is Here

We’re back with month two of the Boundless Desktop Wallpaper Calendar series. While the January wallpaper is out of date, it’s still an awesome image and you can still get it. February’s wallpaper has a quote from the venerable N. T. Wright:

Love is not just tolerance. It’s a warm sense of, ‘I am enjoying the fact that you are you.’

Yes, we made the February wallpaper about love because of Valentine’s Day. Dudes, you may need this calendar on your desktop so you don’t forget the big day.

Pursuit 2015

Register for Pursuit 2015!

The time has come.

I can hardly believe it myself, but registration for Pursuit 2015 is now open. Woot!

It seems totally wacky that we’re gearing up for another event this summer. Pursuit 2014 (and summer, for that matter) doesn’t seem that long ago. What’s more, I wasn’t convinced heading into Pursuit 2014 that we’d repeat it so soon. I figured we’d wait it out, recover from our exhaustion, and check back for interest in a couple years.

Trillia Newbell

Five Questions With Author Trillia Newbell

A lot of people talk about what it means for churches to be culturally and racially diverse, but Trillia Newbell practices it every week. She grew up in the South and attends a predominately white, Southern Baptist church. In her book United: Captured by God’s Vision for Diversity, she explores the theology of diversity and encourages churches to pursue it for Christ’s sake.

In this interview, she explores some of those themes and also offers some other helpful advice.


Setting Deadlines for God

As we celebrated the arrival of 2015, many of us set New Year’s resolutions — Christian singles included. These typically include striving to diet and eat better, join a gym, or make this the year to (finally) meet that special someone. In this digital era, this usually means through an online dating service. I co-founded for this purpose. Let me tell you how this may never have happened had God answered my prayers.

As Christians, we pray to God (or we ought to) for His guidance in His timing.