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Going to Church: Is It Worth It?

There was a time I quit going to church.

It wasn’t an intentional decision, exactly. I just stopped getting up in time to go. I was a senior in college and struggling with some serious health issues that left me tired and in pain. I was attending a limited number of classes during the week, and on Sunday I just couldn’t (or didn’t) force myself to go anywhere.

At the time, I wasn’t connected to a specific church body, so nobody noticed I’d dropped out.

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Hard to Say Goodbye, Easy to Say Thanks

Sometimes when opportunity knocks, you don’t recognize how big of an opportunity it is. In the summer of 2011, I got an email from a woman named Martha Krienke from Boundless, and she asked if she could reprint something I had written called “Man Enough to Love a Real Woman,” (for the record, men, when I look back at that piece I do think it was too harsh).

I was honored that Boundless wanted to run it.

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What If No One Chooses to Love Me?

In two weeks I’ll be at the wedding of two dear friends. It will be understated and tasteful and wonderful. There’ll be dancing and familiar faces and just enough summer heat to justify a sundress. Everything will be perfect.

Except I’ll be alone. This isn’t unusual (I’ve never had a date to a wedding, despite being in eight and attending quite a few more). But for a few shining months, there was this potential for a plus one.

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Rejected: Episode 451

Listen to this week’s show!

Question to Discuss: In your experience, are single men avoiding dating women in their own churches?

Roundtable: Don’t Pass Me By

The cry of Christian women everywhere has been heard: “The single men in my church aren’t asking me or my friends out! They’re searching elsewhere for mates. Are we not good enough or what?” Ladies, we decided to go to the men themselves for an answer. Is the complaint valid?

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A Good-Bye for a New Beginning

In October 2012, I wrote my first blog post for Boundless. I’d been a long-time lurker, but when the opportunity arose to write about my own struggles with singleness and learning how to be an adult, I jumped in with both feet. I had recently turned 30 and was mourning the loss of a potential relationship. I was feeling very, very single.

So I began to write about faith, dating and the things God was teaching me, sometimes through incredible blessings and other times through deep pain.

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I’ve Got a Low Success Rate When It Comes to the Great Commission

I have been a Christian for a long time. And one thing that has bothered me from time to time is my low “success rate” when it comes to the Great Commission. You know, Matthew 28:19-20: “Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you.”

Though I have shared my faith with many people and invested deeply in a few of them, I don’t have a lot of “success stories” to show for it.

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Blaming God for My Chronic Illness

In 2009, I was at a friend’s birthday party when my vision suddenly became distorted. I could hear and see everyone, but it felt like I was in a dream. About 15 seconds later, I came out of it. I walked over to my friend, who’s a doctor, and tried to describe what happened.

“Maybe you’ve got superpowers,” he said, and we both chuckled. Soon thereafter, I stopped chuckling.

The episodes became more frequent, and when they happened I found myself typing the wrong letters or being unable to find words in conversation.

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I’m Taking a Dating Sabbatical

This is the third blog in a series by single woman sharing the story of her goal to go on 40 dates in one year.

Here’s the best part about speed dating: If you’re a female, you likely get to sit at your own table the entire evening while every eight minutes a new conversationalist — or rather, potential suitor — joins you for an informal chat. It’s delightful, really. No pressure. And there’s no need to exchange contact information.

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A Controlling Boyfriend, a Crippling Eating Disorder, and a Choice That Changed My Life

I remember the day it all started. I was in college. My boyfriend was that guy all the girls had crushes on. He cruised around campus in his flashy red car, and somehow, he had picked me. And I was desperate to keep him happy. One day we were at the grocery store, and he pointed out a girl on a magazine cover.

“Do you see this? She’s perfect. That’s what I think is beautiful.”

I remember thinking, But I’ll never look like that.

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Religious Freedom: Episode 450

Listen to this weeks show!

Question to Discuss: In what ways is it easy to live out your faith? In what ways does it feel incredibly difficult at times?

Roundtable: Public Christianity

Religious freedom is a gift, especially in a day where Christianity is considered extreme and voicing your convictions is deemed offensive. How do we navigate the tricky waters of religious expression, and how do we remain hopeful when we see Christ ignored or even mocked in the circles around us?