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Seasoned Singleness: Episode 443

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Question to Discuss: What’s a healthy “no” you’ve given lately? And when’s the last time you said yes when you probably should have said no?

Roundtable: It’s OK to Say “No”

Saying “no” is becoming a lost art. We want to save face, preserve feelings, and basically avoid coming across as a selfish jerk. But in some situations, saying “no” is the best option. Like when it comes to relationships — specifically a marriage proposal.

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Give Us Guys a Break

I’ve heard women say that Christian guys are too selective or aren’t brave enough to ask them out. “It doesn’t have to be a big deal. If you’re interested just ask me to coffee!” Some of my friends have ended up dating non-Christian guys, and when I ask them about it, they say, “The Christian guys just weren’t asking me out, and I want to be married. What am I supposed to do?”

While I don’t have all the answers, I am here to represent what some of us guys are going through, so hopefully women can understand our plight and have a little grace on us.

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Netflix or Friendship? (And Other Dilemmas Introverts Face)

I don’t like big groups. More specifically, I don’t like being in big groups of people I don’t know when there’s nothing to do but socialize. For an introvert, that’s just about the worst thing there is. In my ideal world, people would approach me and seek out my friendship every time I entered a new place. Then, as all the people in the group welcomed me with open arms, I would be completely at ease in this circle of my new best friends.

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That Awkward Moment When You’re Pretty Sure Someone Hates You

Several weeks ago I clicked on an article called “There’s a Lady at the Gym Who Hates Me.” In it, author Lysa TerKeurst describes an incident on side-by-side elliptical machines that caused an intimidating woman at the gym to leave her machine and huff over to the treadmill. “I think she’s hated me ever since,” TerKeurst declares.

As I read about the incident, similar occurrences in my own life rushed to mind. The coworker who seemed a bit too critical of my work.

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Stop Lying to Your Online Dating Matches

My friend Lisa was doing online dating for at while, and at one point she was matched with a guy online who seemed pretty promising. One question she always dealt with early on was height. She’s 5 feet 9 inches, and she didn’t want to be taller than her prospective mate.

“I’m 5’9″too,” he wrote in an email.

What a relief.

After emailing for a while longer, they agreed to meet up at a coffee shop.

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How to Love the Hard to Love

If you’re like me, then you probably have people in your life who rub you the wrong way. You know who I’m talking about. In fact, a short (or long) list of particular individuals is likely coming to mind right now. Maybe it’s the neighbor whose rudeness and negativity drags you down or the coworker who gets on your nerves. Perhaps every time you’re near this friend-of-a-friend you sense the vibe that she’d rather you not be there (for reasons that escape you, of course).

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Finding Your Place at Work: Episode 442

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Question to Discuss: What could make a woman seem intimidating, and is being intimidating an inherently negative quality?

Roundtable: Women in Power

We talked on Episode 430 about the power of the single woman today, and what that means when it comes to education, work, money, freedom and relationships. The fact is, women have incredible opportunities in today’s culture and market, but what does that do to the stereotypes of the “traditional” woman?

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Many Singles Avoid Small Churches, But Maybe They Shouldn’t

When I began church shopping in my early 20s, my list was simple: I wanted a church that served my needs. I looked for a church that had a robust young adult ministry, a few friendly faces, worship that fit my personal preferences and some cute, single guys. My criteria were very me-centered. Throughout my 20s I attended two large non-denominational churches with close to a thousand people in attendance at each. I moved from one church to the other mainly because I was following my friends, and I ended up dating several guys I met through various small groups.

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I’m Almost 30, and I Love Pokémon Go. Here’s What It’s Teaching Me About God.

I’ve been playing Pokémon Go for a week. I love it. In addition to giving me new motivation to go running—because gotta catch ‘em all!—the game has honestly helped me reclaim part of my conservative evangelical upbringing. That sounds strange, but if you’re an evangelical Millennial like me, chances are you grew up navigating a complicated relationship between faith and culture.

Pokémon first existed as a card game. When I was in middle school, my neighborhood friends and I collected them.

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Stop Asking What’s Next

After my freshman year of college, I spent my summer working at a bird seed store. Needless to say, I also spent most of that summer counting down the days until I could be back with my friends at school and never see a bag of bird seed again.

And before that, when I was in middle school, I couldn’t wait to get into high school (thanks to Zac Efron and the cast of High School Musical).