Free From Porn, Father’s Infidelity, 30th Birthday

For the past four years, we’ve shared Engagement Stories from couples who have benefited from Boundless on their journey to the altar. (My favorite is from Lindsey and Brian.) The stories are a fun way for the Boundless community to celebrate an engagement; learn from one another’s experiences; and see what articles, podcasts or principles were most helpful in that couple’s relationship.  

But we receive many more stories than these from our readers and listeners, telling us how God has used Boundless in their unique situations. To encourage you in your journey and give God the glory for the work He’s doing through Boundless, we’re going to start posting these stories as well.

If you have a story to share, email us at editor@boundless.org. By sending your story to us, we’re assuming that you’re giving us permission to share it with other readers; please let us know if you want us to change your name or not publish your story. Photos are welcome.

Free From Porn

I just wanted to let you know that your podcast has been an absolute blessing in my life. I work a desk job where I stare at a computer for eight hours a day. It gives me a lot of time to listen to your posts. I’ve been listening for about two months now. I’m almost 24, and I’m about to get married. I’ve struggled with pornography my whole life. It burned me away inside as I would be a youth leader at church and talk to my fiancée. I felt very wrong. I tried doing it alone, and it didn’t work.

I found your podcast one day while looking up Christian wedding material. I was hooked. Needless to say, I’ve been porn-free since I started listening to this. I don’t have the same urges as before. Scripture is jumping out at me when I read, and it feels more real than it’s ever been. Ultimately, we know that God is the One who did the work in my heart, but you were the vessel for that work. I think it’s important to let people know when they have helped you. I love what you guys do, and I’m so much better just for plugging in. I’m not only becoming a better Christian, but you’ve helped me prepare for leading my family when I get married. Thank you so much! 1 Corinthians 10:31 —Gary

Father’s Infidelity

I am dealing with my father’s infidelity and lack of remorse. I was drowning in my own depression and anxiety but could not find hope, despite my prayers. Then I found this https://www.boundless.org/advice/2007/how-am-i-to-deal-with-my-dads-infidelity. That young man’s situation matched mine, down to the exact point, and Mr. Thomas’ words really reached into my heart and gave me the peace I’ve desperately needed and the courage to keep moving forward. May the Lord bless Mr. Thomas and Boundless.org. Finding that post was truly a miracle and a blessing. Words cannot express the gratitude I feel in my soul. Thank you.

30th Birthday

Thank you for your ministry, for speaking truth, for pouring out encouragement, for keeping it real and for keeping Christ at the center. I discovered Boundless only late last year and have been listening to the podcasts like a ravenous creature. I am writing you, with my 30th birthday looming, while sitting here in tears listening to the podcast about getting married in your 30s (Over the Hill?: Episode 193) and just the other day, my eyes welled up in tears on the public bus at rush hour while listening to the interview with Lisa. Among the many things about Boundless that I am thankful for is that it’s shaping my perspective of singleness and how to live this season of life, not just in what I do but with who I am and whose I am in mind.

Boundless has also given me permission to grieve the life I thought I would be living. I’m slowly learning to go to God with my loneliness and my sadness and cry to Him and not only approach Him with “the right things to say.” It’s hard to admit that I am struggling with singleness for a couple of reasons. One, it’s hard to say singleness is suffering when comparing it to poverty or sickness, etc. Two, I want to be that strong woman of God, who is fully content in singleness and yet has hope. Instead, the reality is that I’m more of a crazy pendulum that swings between a state of obsession with making dates/marriage happen and a state of denial of longing for marriage in an almost nun-like existence. And often, while completely true, an admission of struggling with singleness is often met with “marriage won’t solve your problems” or “singleness and the time/ freedom that comes with it is such a gift for serving,” etc. Thank you for speaking those truths but also ministering kindly to single hearts that may be hurting.

I pray that God will continue to use you through Boundless and in the many other ways He has orchestrated. I pray that you will experience God’s grace and steadfast love this year. —Claire

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